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Gay Dads Featured on Cover of Parents Magazine for First Time

Fitness guru Shaun T. and his husband Scott Blokker are the first gay dads to be featured on the cover of Parents Magazine

I literally never thought I'd see the day. Literally.

Gay fathers on the cover of Parents Magazine! Gay fathers being celebrated in a "main stream" publication about being parents. Gay fathers!

I don't want to get overly dramatic here, but this is a milestone. A massive cultural milestone.

Sure, gay dads have come a long way in being accepted in our popular culture, but to my eye we've never been on the cover of a big popular parenting magazine celebrating our parenting skills. As if we are the norm.

We are now - thanks to Parents Magazine.

This is a particular milestone for me because I have a bit of a history with the magazine and with parenting publications in general. My first job out of grad school was in brand marketing at Johnson's Baby Products where I did indeed run advertising in this particular magazine. Back then though we only featured married, straight couples. There were no other kinds of parents to feature back in the day! And if I'm to be really honest, they were generally white, married, straight couples.

I distinctly remember one photo shoot where I forgot to put a wedding ring on the "husband's" finger and we had to reshoot it. No photoshop back then!

Now admittedly this was before I was a dad and before I was out, but as the years went by and I embraced my own journey as a gay dad, there were no role models or pop culture markers to say that I (and other gay dads) were accepted. There were no Andy Cohens publicly making baby announcements. We were alone on our parenting.

It was hard. There was a constant barrage of straight parenting norms that constantly reminded us that we were different.
Not any more! Being a gay dad, or any dad, is now simply being a parent. A good parent. A loving parent. And we have Parents Magazine to thank for the reminder and endorsement, with hopefully more to come.

And I can't help but think, and actually know, that this kind of normalization will inspire the next generation of gay dads who will simply accept, without hesitation, that fatherhood as a gay man is a real, accepted, and normal option.

Bravo!

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Ricky Martin: Puerto Rican, Gay Dad, Revolutionary

Superstar Ricky Martin has been participating in a mass movement in Puerto Rico, which this week led to the the resignation of the Governor, Ricardo Rosselló

Earlier this week, Puerto Rico Gov. Ricardo Rosselló announced his resignation Wednesday days after hundreds of thousands of demonstrators — which made up the island's largest protest in recent — called for his removal after private chats were leaked the contained, among many other things, homophonic content.

Superstar Ricky Martin protested alongside many in the country — setting an amazing example for his kids as to what's possible when people rise up and stand for what's right. He chronicled the week's protests on Instagram, some of our favorites of which are below:

Ricky Martin with fellow Puerto Rican celebs Bad Bunny and Residente, calling for the Governor's resignation. 

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8 Pics of Ricky Martin Being an Adorable Dad Because Why Not?

Here's some pics of Ricky Martin being an adorable dad because we've ALL had a long week and deserve this don't we??

Earlier this year, in January 2019, superstar Ricky Martin and his husband Jwan Yosef shared a post via Instagram announcing that they'd welcomed a baby girl named Lucia into their family. With twin 9-year-old sons in the house as well, Ricky and Jwan now have a very full casa. Fortunately, the dads are giving us a little glimpse into their chaotic but fun-filled home lives via Instagram. We rounded up 8 of our fav recent parenting pics by the popstar because we've all had long weeks and we deserve this don't we??

Enjoy!

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Things Husbands (and Gay Dads) Do According to Matt Dallas and Blue Hamilton

If you're a married gay dad, some of these arguments in Matt Dallas and Blue Hamilton's latest video "Things Husbands Do" will probably look familiar

Ok so Matt Dallas and Blue Hamilton might not be the most relatable gay dads on the planet... One's a famous actor, the other a Grammy-nominated musician. And somehow, between their demanding careers, and raising a son together, both men seem to live at the gym.

But if you can look past those tiny details, videos like "Things Husbands Do," posted to the couple's popular YouTube account, shows that Matt and Blue are no strangers to the same ridiculous arguments many gay dads and husbands are familiar with. Among the more relatable af moments:

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"That doesn't represent his personality," Blue complains to Matt, who dressed their 6-year-old son, Crow, in a monochromatic black shirt and hipster skinny jeans.

"He looks like a clown!" Matt retorts, when Blue emerges, moments, later having dressed Crow in every color imaginable.

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"You have to be the mother again," Blue tells Matt as he's filling out a medical release form for Crow

"You be the mother this time, I was the mother last time," Matt says in response.

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Towards the end of the video, Matt and Blue solicit their son's opinion on the better of two last name options: "Dallas-Hamilton" or "Hamilton-Dallas." (Crow preferred Dallas-Hamilton, for the record.)


'Life Is Amazing': Congrats to Gay Dads Whose Families Recently Grew!

Help us congratulate gay dads on their recent births and adoptions last month!

Wishing all of these gay dads whose families expanded in the last month or so a lifetime of happiness! Congrats to everyone in our community on their recent births and adoptions!

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We Gained a Son Through Foster Care — He Didn't Lose his Family

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My husband, Phil, and I talked about having children since out first date over 11 years ago. Like many other gay dads, we waited to start the journey to become parents until we felt secure with our careers, finances, and home life. This meant we didn't start the partnering journey until 2016 when we were eight years into our relationship.

When we first met, I was completing my graduate studies in social work and subsequently started a career working in foster care and adoption. This made our decision to pursue foster care-adoption as our path to parenthood a fairly easy one. In fact, I can't recall us discussing other avenues to parenthood, but I'm sure we briefly discussed them before solidifying our decision to become foster parents.

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In the Philly Area? Attend 'Family Pride' On October 5th!

Philadelphia Family Pride is hosting their 10th Annual "Family Matters" Conference on October 5th for LGBTQ parents, prospective parents, and their kids!

Guest post by Stephanie Haynes, the executive director of Philadelphia Family Pride

On Saturday, October 5, 2019, Philadelphia Family Pride will hold their 10th Annual Family Matters Conference from 9am to 3:30pm for LGBTQ parents, prospective parents and their kids of all ages at the University of the Sciences in West Philadelphia. The theme this year is "Telling Our Stories." Registration is now open!

In an interactive keynote, Anndee Hochman, author of the Philadelphia Inquirer's weekly "Parent Trip" column, will share highlights from her work as a journalist and memoirist. She'll invite conversation about the stories that shape us—what tales do we share? who does the telling? who is left out?—and how those stories, added up, are changing the world. Read her bio.

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5 Things to Keep in Mind When Preparing for Your Home Study

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The homestudy is the first step in the adoption process. In every state the homestudy is done a little differently, but all of them have the some combo of paperwork, trainings, and interviews. The homestudy can take anywhere from 2 months to 6 months to complete. Without it, you cannot adopt.

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