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This Women's History Month, Gay Men Honor the Gals Who Help Make Them Dads

Each and every man becomes a dad with the help of a woman. We asked gay dads to honor one who helped them along in their path to parenthood to help us celebrate women's history month.

Each and every one of us became (or will become) a dad with the help of a woman--more often than not, with the help of multiple women. So this Women's History Month, we choose to celebrate these women by asking you to tell us a bit about them. Enjoy these inspiring stories below. Want to honor a woman in your life who has helped you become a dad? Tell us about her at dads@gayswithkids.com


BJ and Frankie on their "incredible" surrogate


"We are fortunate to have so many incredible women in our lives that helped us become the people we are today. There is one woman in particular that we want to honor; @kathyfrenette. She helped us create our family through surrogacy. If it wasn't for her, we would not be blessed with the most incredible son ever! There are great people in this world and you are one of them.Your tenacity, strength, selflessness, kindness, are a few qualities that make you an incredible mother and role model to others. You are and will be forever a part of our family!"

Erik's message to their daughters' birth moms

"As hard as it was to make that choice, you chose life. You didn't know us long, but you knew our hearts instantly. You gave us your gift of life and because of that you gave us life. Our hearts swell with gratitude as we thank you for your gift, for your strength, endurance and perseverance."

Larry thanks one of the most extraordinary woman he knows

Who does Larry want to honor this Women's History Month? "Our son's Birthmother, obviously. 😊 Very big decision for a young woman to make, placing her child for adoption. Very grateful she chose David and I. ❤️"

Jeff is forever grateful to his Intentional Parenting Partner 

Jeff, Mayeti, Abeba (10) and Alice (7)

"The incredible woman who helped me was the friend with whom I created an Intentional Parent Partnership. She is a smart, beautiful, progressive attorney who has done great things helping many people over many years. She wanted to be a parent and didn't feel she could give up her career or manage it as a single woman. We talked about coparenting together for over a year and thoughtfully considered all aspects. Then we took the leap of faith! We have 2 amazing daughters who are 10 and 7. We live in 2 homes 2 miles apart and share the financial, emotional, logistical, spiritual, and aspirational day to day realities of supporting their growth. Our partnership was and remains intentional, cooperative, and child-centric. I thank this amazing woman for taking that leap of faith!"

Mark became a father with the help and inspiration of one particular woman

"Chemene opened our world to the older adoption world, connecting us with a great adoption agency through her grassroots support group Long Island Adoption Families."

Dads Ben and Aaron couldn't be the wonderful dads they are today without their nanny

"Our nanny, Linda, is the perfect example of a strong, loving, and caring woman. The definition of selfless. She teaches our daughter to be kind, independent, and FUN! All while allowing us to maintain our own individual identity. She never asks anything from us and yet, seems to always be there. She has welcomed us into her family and has become a permanent member of ours. We love Linda."

Dad Joseph speaks about the love and support from his number 1 fan, his mom

"My mom is everything to me. If it wasn't for her I don't know how I'd be here with my girls today. At the age of 68 she traveled half way across the world with me and held my hand during the worst of times when my daughters were born. Her continued support and strength is what keeps me going everyday. I hope and pray my daughters grow up to be the woman my mom is."

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People Magazine Interviews Four Surrogates in Latest Issue

People Magazine helped humanize the experiences of surrogates by interviewing for women who carried babies for other people

There are common misperceptions about what motivates women to do the seemingly unthinkable: carry a child for another person. The only motivator, people assume, must be money. But as anyone who has been through the process will tell you — the reasons women decide to carry children for other people are varied. Financial compensation is of course a factor, but typically it is not the only one, and rarely is it even the most important.

Recently, People Magazine ran a feature on four women who served as surrogates, which helped reveal a plethora of other motivators. Sammie Diaz, for instance, carried a son for a gay couple in Seattle, because she was motivated to help people who can't have children on their own start their families — money was just a minot factor.

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Check out our fang-tastic round-up of gay dads and their kids dressed to impress this Halloween!

Every time we think we've seen the best of the best for Halloween, the following year tops the last - and this year's no different! These gay dad families look FANG-TASTIC! If you haven't gotten in on the fun yet, enter out first ever Gays With Kids family Halloween costume contest! Entries are due today!

In the meantime, check out these amazing costumes below!

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All October long, we'll be posting pics of gay dads and their major Halloween costumes from previous years for inspiration! We'll ALSO let you know where to get the looks!

We've said it before and we'll say it again — NO ONE does Halloween (aka queer Christmas) better than the gays. So if you're in need of some inspiration for this year's family costume, look no further! We selected 31 of our favorites off Instagram from last year, one for each spooky day of October, to help get your creative juices flowing.

We can't wait to see what creepy, creative and/or cute costumes dads have up their sleeves (or maybe capes?) this year!

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David and Ben Met on the Dance Floor — and Are Now Grooving Their Way Through Fatherhood

David and Ben, who became fathers with the help of Northwest Surrogacy Center, live in Melbourne with their daughter, Maia.

In 2003, while both studying at Reading University in the UK, Ben Suter and David Cocks met after locking eyes on the dance floor and then being introduced by a mutual friend. Ben, a meteorologist and Operations Manager, and David, an Assistant Principal, have been together ever since. They moved to Australia together in 2010, seeking a different life, and an overall better work-life balance. The chose Cairns in Queensland as their new home, between the Great Barrier Reef and the tropical rainforest, "taking life a bit easier," said David. The couple were also married in June 2016, back home in England.

While David always wanted kids, Ben took a little convincing. So they started their parenting journey with a dog, Titan, who quickly became like their first born. From there, Ben came around rather quickly.

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Single Gay Dad and the City

When Kyle decided to take his four kids, ages 6-11, to New York City on vacation, his friends thought he was crazy.

"You're crazy, Kyle."

"You can't be serious? A single dad taking four kids to the Big Apple? Think again."

"That's bold. There's no way I'd do that."

Those were a few of the responses I heard from my friends as I told them I was thinking of booking a trip to New York City with four kids, ages 11-6. My children's fall vacation from school was approaching and I wanted to get out of the house and explore. Was the Big Apple too much of an adventure?

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National's Pitcher Cites Wife's Two Moms as Reason for Declining White House Invite

"I think that's an important part of allyship," Doolittle said of his wife's two moms.

Sean Doolittle, pitcher for the Washington Nationals, declined an invitation to the White House after his team won the World Series this year. In an interview with the Washington Post, he listed his numerous reasons for staying home — and a main consideration, he revealed, was his wife's two moms.

"I want to show support for them. I think that's an important part of allyship, and I don't want to turn my back on them," Doolittle said during the interview.

Trump's treatment of a minority groups, generally, factored into his decision as well. "I have a brother-in-law who has autism, and [Trump] is a guy that mocked a disabled reporter. How would I explain that to him that I hung out with somebody who mocked the way that he talked or the way that he moves his hands? I can't get past that stuff."

Doolitttle clarified that his decision had little to do with policy disagreements with the White House. "There's a lot of things, policies that I disagree with, but at the end of the day, it has more to do with the divisive rhetoric and the enabling of conspiracy theories and widening the divide in this country. My wife and I stand for inclusion and acceptance, and we've done work with refugees, people that come from, you know, the 'shithole countries.'"

He concluded by saying he respected his teammates decision to attend the White house ceremony. "I want people to know that I put thought into this, and at the end of the day, I just can't go."

Read more of the Washington Post interview here.

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New York Will Fight 'Repugnant' Trump Rule on Adoption, Says Cuomo

Governor Andrew Cuomo of New York promises legal action of the Trump administration moves ahead with plans to allow discrimination against LGBTQ adoptive and foster parents

Last week, the Trump administration announced plans to allow adoption and foster care agencies to discriminate against prospective LGBTQ parents — but he may face a legal fight from (former) hometown. In a tweet, Governor Andrew Cuomo of New York said the proposed move "isn't just discriminatory and repugnant to our values,— it's also heartless and dumb as it would deny countless children a loving family and a safe place to call home." If the proposal moves forward, he continued. "we'll take legal action to stop it.

Governor Cuomo's office followed up the tweet with a lengthier statement posted to their website:

Once again the Trump administration is attacking the hard-earned rights and protections of the LGBTQ community, this time proposing a new measure that would give foster care and adoption agencies license to discriminate based on sexual orientation or gender identity.

Trump's proposal isn't just discriminatory and repugnant to our values — it's also heartless and dumb as it would deny countless children a loving family and a safe place to call home. If he moves forward with this rule, we'll take legal action to stop it.

No matter what happens in Washington, New York State is and will continue to be a beacon of equality in this country. Our Human Rights Law and adoption regulations expressly prohibit discrimination against the LGBTQ community, including when it comes to adoption. I encourage any LGBTQ New Yorker who feels they are a victim of this discrimination to contact the State Division of Human Rights for assistance.

Our message to the Trump administration is simple: there is no place for hate in New York or in our nation, and we will not allow this noxious proposal to stop LGBTQ New Yorkers from becoming parents or providing care to children in need.

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