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Follow Along as "Dadvocates" Fight for Paid Paternity Leave on Capitol Hill

On October 22, a group of "Dadvocates," including gay dad-to-be Rudy, will join Dove Men+Care and PL+US on Capitol Hill to advocate for paid paternity leave for *ALL* dads

When Rudy and Andy were first together, gay marriage wasn't legal. Now they've been happily married for five years and are expectant dads! But the fight for equality isn't over, and advocating for paid family leave continues.

On Tuesday, October 22, Rudy will join Dove Men+Care, Paid Leave for United States (PL+US), and a group of "Dadvocates" including Alexis Ohanian (co-founder of Reddit; Serena Williams' husband), for a "Dads' Day of Action" on Capitol Hill. This group of fathers, which includes two same-sex couples, will share their unique and urgent stories with key members of Congress to press the importance of federally-provided paid paternity leave.


Gays With Kids has been advocating for paternity leave alongside Dove Men+Care since early this year, and we're proud to have had so many supporters join us! We've shared the stories of gay dads who received no paid leave, of a father who had access to paid leave but didn't feel confident in taking it, and of other dads who've fought for leave within their companies.

We're excited to follow Rudy and the other Dadvocates as they fight for paid paternity leave for ALL dads on Tuesday, October 22. Watch our Instagram and Facebook stories to watch the news unfold and find out what YOU can do to advocate alongside us.

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Dads and allies, visit DoveMenCare.com/Pledge and sign the "Pledge for Paternity Leave," and don't forget to join the Faceboook community page Advocates for Paternity Leave, where you can find tools and resources to help advocate for change locally or within your workplace.

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"I was not," Jarius said, who was offered two weeks off — though he was lucky to get even that. "They had just implemented the policy like a couple month before," he said.

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"It's important for all dads to receive paternity leave," said Jarius. "They're part of the child's life, too. Just a few weeks is not adequate enough for such a big life change."

Terrell agreed, saying the time is "important to bond with your child," and also to make sure "your house isn't going to suffer from a financial standpoint."

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Our goal is to help Dove Men+Care bring 100,000 signatures to key policymakers in Washington, D.C. for their Day of Action on the Hill, and drive urgency behind this issue.

If you believe *ALL* dads should receive paid paternity leave, sign the Paternity Leave Pledge.

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