Gay Dad Family Stories

This Family Is 'Flying High' with Acceptance

Dads Kai and Nir, who work as flight service managers, recently spoke to their son's class — in full uniform of course.

Meet Daddy Kai, Daddy Nir, and their two beautiful kids! These loving fathers are flight service managers who live in Israel, but are often busy flying around the world. When they were recently invited to their son's preschool to talk about their careers, they knew they had to come in full uniform and — of course — bring some safety equipment. Daddy Kai shared the experience with us.

"The kids are already used to our son having two dads and a mom. We are the only 'queer' family in his preschool and everybody, parents and children, are really accepting," says Kai. "The children also call us like our sons call us: 'Daddy Kai and Daddy Nir'."


Kai said that they brought an in-flight safety demonstration kit with them and used it as a chance to chat with the kids about the importance of a plane's oxygen masks, safety belts, and life vests. The students all took turns trying on the safety materials and were really excited to ask questions!

Daddies Kai and Nir are in a co-parenting relationship with a childhood friend of Nir's. Kai is the biological father of their 5-year-old son, Nir is the biological father of their 1-year-old daughter, and Nir's friend is the biological mother of them both; together, they all make one big and happy family!

"The best thing about fatherhood is the amount of unconditional love we have for our children, and towards each other! Our life hasn't changed much since becoming fathers, except for the constant concern and worry for [our kids] to always be happy and healthy."

Since both dads work for airlines, they have a lot of time off to spend with their kids. They live in a town near Tel Aviv and enjoy spending their afternoons just hanging out as a family and trying new food!

"At the end of the day, a mother of one of the kids told me that her son said he also wanted two dads!"

Thanks for sharing your story, Daddy Kai! Please let us know when you're free to give us an in-flight safety demonstration!

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