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5 Gay Dads Who Are Leading the Way for LGBTQ Families

Here is a list of five gay dads who are setting a positive parenting example to the LGBTQ community and world as a whole.

Photo from @EltonJohn Instagram

The modern family has come a long way from 2.4 children, set within the traditional nuclear unit. Gay parents are now commonplace, with laws around the world gradually changing to legalize gay marriage and adoption.

With this sentiment in mind, and with the beginning of Pride season this June, here is a celebration of five gay dads who set a fine parenting example to the gay community and world as a whole.

#1: Kordale Lewis

This American dad has a veritable brood in his home being parent to four children, two boys and two girls.

Kordale Lewis and his then partner Kaleb shot into the limelight for a photo they posted on Instagram which at the time seemed nothing out of the ordinary. A fun snap of the two dads getting their daughters' hair ready for school - but the internet exploded.

As well as being two gay men co-parenting a family, Kordale and Kaleb are also black. This loving yet everyday moment presented a rare moment of positivity, at a time when racial tensions were running high. For this reason, this one viral snap has changed this family's life forever, cannoning them into the spotlight and giving Kordale a powerful voice.

This positive model of a modern family has led to Nikon cameras choosing the family to lead their 2015 marketing campaign, and Swedish avant-garde brand Acne Studios picking them to front an ad for them last year.

Seizing the opportunity to embrace positive attitudes, Kordale Lewis has also released a top-selling book, Picture Perfect, about the dynamics of families today, and what it means to be a gay dad.

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Gay Dad Life

Sir Elton John Faces Criticism for Saying His Sporty Sons are "Real Boys"

Elton John, who made a career out of breaking down gender stereotypes, faced some criticism for saying his sons are "normal" and "real boys" because they like sports and flirt with girls.

Sir Elton John, who is currently on a farewell tour before he retires, was criticized for a recent interview he gave to the Sun where he said his sons are "real boys" and "normal" because they like to play sports, and flirt with girls.

The pop superstar, who is currently 72, is dads to two sons, Zachary and Elijah who are eight and six respectively, along with his husband David Furnish.

"My boys are so boyish," Elton John said. "They are real boys. They're flirts – girl mad." He added later, "they're just very athletic, normal kids."

Labour MP Chris Bryant was among those who criticized the piano man for his choice of words. "I never thought I would hear Elton John use the word 'normal' in a stereotypical way," he said. "There are thousands of ways of being a boy and you don't have to like football, you don't have to like girls. You can be Billy Elliot or Elton John."

The Rocketman also revealed he would have liked to have more children, but felt his age presented a barrier. "It's fantastic being a dad," he said. "Ten years ago if you'd have told me that, I'd have said you're crazy." He added "we're too old to have any more. If we were 20 years, 15 years younger, we'd have probably had another one at least. But with the boys we've got enough on our hands."

Read more here.

Gay Dad Life

David Burtka's Cookbook to Offer Glimpse of Family Life With Neil Patrick Harris and Kids

David Burtka recently gave an interview with People Magazine about his new cookbook, "Life is a Party," which hits shelves on April 16th

David Burtka's new cookbook, "Life is a Party" slated to hit shelves on April 16th, will offer a look at life with his husband Neil Patrick Harris and their 8-year-old twins, Harper and Gideon, according to a recent interview with People Magazine. The book picks up where his Food Network special "Life's a Party with David Burtka" left off in 2016.

"The book gives a glimpse into our world and how we entertain," Burtka, who is a Cordon-Bleu trained chef, told People. "We show our lifestyle with the twins by carving pumpkins for fall, parading around the snow in the winter, and sharing my secrets for throwing an amazing and unforgettable event."


Burtka says he tasting many of the recipes that made the cut in the book out on his twins first. "It was lots of fun, but the kids would ask me, 'tangerine chicken, again?' and 'how many different ways can we eat lemon sole, dad?'"

Read the whole story here and pre-order the book on Amazon here!

Gay Dad Life

Gay Single Dads Defend Andy Cohen's Right to Be on Grindr

After the Internet rushed to judge Andy Cohen for signing onto Grindr a couple of weeks after welcoming his newborn son home, fellow single gay dads rushed to his defense.

Last week, we wrote a post about reports that "What What Happens Live" host Andy Cohen had been "spotted" on gay dating app Grindr several weeks after welcoming a newborn into his home. This has some of his followers on social media all worked up"

"Get off Grindr and start being a dad," said one follower who appeared to think single parents must take a vow of celibacy the minute they start changing diapers. "You're sad, that kid has no chance," said another.

Well, suffice it to say that this judgment from people who are presumably not single gay dads of Andy Cohen certainly struck a nerve with our gay dad audience! We received well over 100 comments on this post on Facebook, the vast majority of them coming to Cohen's defense. We caught up with two fellow single gay dads to find out why the story struck a nerve.

"We don't have to live like monks!"

One of the most liked comments on our piece came from Owen Lonzar, who wrote the following:

"I have always been a good single father to my biological son who came to live with me when he was 7 years old. He is now 25 years old and we are very close. I used Grindr and dated while he lived with me. I never had anyone sleep over and he certainly never saw some man he didn't know hanging around my home. Single parents have to date responsibly and with sensitivity to their child but that doesn't mean they have to live like monks!"

We asked Cohen to elaborate a bit more on why the backlash against Cohen bothered him. He had the sense, he said, that much of the criticism against LGBTQ parents comes from gay men without children. "Gay men without kids have a lot to say," he said. "And all of it is ignorant, because they have no idea what it means to actually be a father." He said he was particularly disappointed in gay critics, given our shared history of discrimination. "You would think with all the prejudice we have faced that gay men would be less judgmental themselves," he said.

"Are we supposed to be celibate?"

Another commenter, Josue Sebastian Dones-Figueroa, who is a divorced father of five, questioned what Cohen's critics would prefer him do. "So what, parents are supposed to become celibate because they have kids?" he asked.

We followed up with Josue to ask him to elaborate a bit more: "The idea that just because he is a dad that he would need to stop being a man," he said, questioning why Cohen should have to put his life hold and stop dating, or having sex, just because he's now a father. "If the child is cared for loved and not neglected what is the problem? Life goes on right?"


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Adopting an Older Child Through Foster Care Was the Best Path for These Dads

After learning more about older-child adoption through You Gotta Believe, Mark and Andrew decided it was the best way for them to form their family.

"Hey! I got adopted today! These are my dads, Mark and Andrew!"

Jeremy was 16 years old when he found out his new dads wanted to adopt him.

In late August 2017, husbands Mark and Andrew Mihopulos, 34 and 36 respectively, remember driving out to the east end of Long Island. They knew at the very same moment they were driving, social workers were letting Jeremy know they wanted to adopt him. "We expected Jeremy to be hesitant or feel mixed emotions," shared Mark. "We didn't know how he would feel about having two dads and about having white parents and family, as he is a black young man."

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Philippe "Swiped Right" on This Handsome Young Dad

At first, Philippe wasn't sure he could date a man who was a dad. But Steve, and his son Gabriel, have helped him realize a "fatherly side" of himself he didn't know he had.

"It's been one hell of a ride since the beginning," said 26-year-old Steve Argyrakis, Canadian dad of one. He was 19 when he found out he was going to be a dad and the mom was already several months along in her pregnancy. Steve, who lives in Montreal, was struggling with his homosexuality but wanted to do the "right thing," so he continued to suppress his authentic self. "I was so scared about the future and about my own happiness, that I had put aside my homosexuality once again."

A couple of months later, little Gabriel was born, and it was love at first sight.

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Gay dads singing and dancing with their kids is EXACTLY what you need to get your weekend started right.

Who jams to Led Zeppelin with their kids?

Who rocks some sweet moves to Kelly Clarkson?

Who sings along with their kids in the car?

Who breaks it down with a baby strapped to them in a carrier?

We all do! But these guys happened to catch it all on tape for us to enjoy! Thanks dads. 😂

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This Dad Went 'Numb' After a Painful Failed Adoption, But Learned to Love Again

After a painful failed adoption that brought these gay dads to the brink of realizing their dream of fatherhood, Paul "went numb" for several months before trying, and succeeding, again

In the fall of 2010, what was suppose to be a non-committal daytime date in Seattle, ended up being 3 days of sharing life experiences, unpacking emotional luggage and the moment I realized I had met my future husband. Just under four years later, we were saying "I Do", and became Paul and Jamie Trudel-Payne.

Jamie, a devilishly handsome All-American freelance writer, came from a tightly woven, kind and virtuous household. While I, Paul, a cute (ish) bi-racial (Mexican/Caucasian) small business owner, came from a somewhat intrusive, rambunctious and very large Hispanic family. The desire and support received from both families was immense and just six months after being married, we began the adoption process.

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