Gay Surrogacy

Surrogacy allows gay men to have a biological connection to their child. Our gay surrogacy guide will take you through each step of the process.

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Gay Surrogacy Process

Whether you’re ready to get started on your gay surrogacy journey — or just browsing for information — you’ve come to the right place!

We’ve partnered with some of the most well-regarded and experienced surrogacy professionals & IVF doctors in the world to create this overview of surrogacy for gay parents. Our Gay Surrogacy video series below will guide you through each step of your surrogacy journey. 

Chapter 1: Intro to Surrogacy & IVF

Featuring: Sam Hyde, Circle Surrogacy & Egg Donation; Kristen Hanson, Simple Surrogacy; Victoria T. Ferrara, Worldwide Surrogacy Specialists

Chapter 2: Build Your Surrogacy Team

Featuring: Sam Hyde, Circle Surrogacy & Egg Donation; Kristen Hanson, Simple Surrogacy; Victoria T. Ferrara, Worldwide Surrogacy Specialists

Chapter 3: Choose Your Surrogacy Agency

Featuring: Sam Hyde, Circle Surrogacy & Egg Donation; Stephanie Scott Of Simple Surrogacy; Kristen Hanson, Simple Surrogacy; Victoria T. Ferrara, Worldwide Surrogacy Specialists

Chapter 4: Choose Your Fertility Clinic

Featuring: Dr. Mark Leondires, Reproductive Medicine Associates Of Connecticut; Dr. Guy Ringler, California Fertility Partners; Dr. Jerald S. Goldstein, Fertility Specialists Of Texas; and Dr. Daniel Skora, Fertility Specialists Of Texas

Chapter 5: Overview of the IVF Process

Featuring: Dr. Mark Leondires, Reproductive Medicine Associates of Connecticut; Dr. Guy Ringler, California Fertility Partners; Dr. Jerald S. Goldstein, Fertility Specialists of Texas; and Dr. Daniel Skora, Fertility Specialists of Texas

Chapter 6: Choosing & Screening Egg Donors

Featuring: Dr. Mark Leondires, Reproductive Medicine Associates of Connecticut; Dr. Guy Ringler, California Fertility Partners; Dr. Jerald S. Goldstein, Fertility Specialists of Texas; and Dr. Daniel Skora, Fertility Specialists of Texas

Chapter 7: Intended Parent Screening

Featuring: Dr. Mark Leondires, Reproductive Medicine Associates of Connecticut; Dr. Guy Ringler, California Fertility Partners; Dr. Jerald S. Goldstein, Fertility Specialists of Texas; and Dr. Daniel Skora, Fertility Specialists of Texas

Chapter 8: Surrogate Matching & Screening

Featuring: Sam Hyde, Circle Surrogacy & Egg Donation; Kristen Hanson, Simple Surrogacy; Victoria T. Ferrara, Worldwide Surrogacy Specialists; and Dr. Mark Leondires, Reproductive Medicine Associates of Connecticut

Chapter 9: Surrogacy Costs & How to Afford Them

Featuring: Sam Hyde, Circle Surrogacy & Egg Donation; Kristen Hanson, Simple Surrogacy; and Victoria T. Ferrara, Worldwide Surrogacy Specialists

 

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Your Gay Surrogacy Team

They say it takes a village to raise a child — but where gay male surrogacy is concerned, this is true just to conceive one.

Your surrogacy and IVF team, made up of a variety of family-building professionals, will guide you through every step of your journey. Below is an overview of the professionals who make up your surrogacy team.

Your Surrogacy & IVF Professionals

Fertility Clinics

You will need to work with a fertility clinic and IVF laboratory — where a doctor, an experienced reproductive endocrinologist, will conduct medical screenings, create embryos and help your surrogate achieve pregnancy. Reproductive endocrinologists specialize in using advanced fertility technology to help you have your child. You should be sure to work with a reproductive physician and fertility clinic that has extensive experience with surrogacy  — and particularly with gay dads. Book a free consult with one or more of our GWK-approved fertility clinics here. 

Surrogacy Agencies

You will need to work with a surrogacy agency, and we strongly recommend you find one  with a long track record of success helping gay men become fathers. While it is possible to do a surrogacy journey on your own (which is called an "independent" surrogacy journey), a surrogacy agency will be there to guide you through every step of the experience — and be there when and if complications arise. (And as our GWK Partners to Parenthood will tell you, something always does!) Your surrogacy agency will assign you a case worker who is meant to help guide you through this all. Book a free consult with one of our GWK-approved surrogacy agencies here.

Egg Donor Agencies

You will also need to find an egg donor — and there are several different places you can do so. Some surrogacy agencies and fertility clinics have their own in-house egg donor directories. Fertility clinics generally work with a smaller group of donors they have already screened, and are less expensive for that reason, while agencies may have a wider selection, with slightly higher costs. You can also find an egg donor from an egg bank. In this case, an egg donor would have already donated her eggs, which have been frozen and stored. Lastly, you can work with a "known" egg donor — these are friends or family members willing to donate their eggs to you, often for free, and may play some role in your child's life. 

Legal Counsel

You will also need to work with an experienced assisted reproductive attorney, who will negotiate legal contracts with your surrogate and egg donor. Some surrogacy agencies have lawyers in-house and can help you navigate the legal aspects of the journey in addition to coordinating the overall journey. If your surrogacy agency does not have lawyers in-house, you will need to hire your own outside counsel. Your lawyer will help you navigate two critical issues: navigating surrogacy laws and establishing your legal parenting rights. 

Mental Health 

Next, you will need to work with an experienced mental health professional. The American Society for Reproductive Medicine (ASRM), which offers guidelines for the ethical practice of surrogacy, recommends you, your surrogate and your donor — and each of your partners, where relevant — undergo screening by a trained mental health professional early on in the process.

Insurance

You will also need the support of fertility insurance experts, who will help make sure both your surrogate and egg donor are properly covered. Your surrogacy agency should help facilitate that process. Even if the surrogate has her own health insurance that is approved to cover her maternity care during a pregnancy, parents should expect to compensate her for using that insurance, as well as paying her premiums and deductibles during the journey. You will also need a special form of insurance for your egg donor, as insurance companies do not cover the egg donation process.

Choose Your Professionals Carefully!

You will be working incredibly closely with your team of experts, so it’s important that you feel comfortable with your professionals. Make sure to speak with several before making a decision. And visit our Partners to Fatherhood page for a listing of GWK-approved surrogacy agencies and IVF clinics with long track records of success and a commitment to working with gay, bi and trans men.

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Surrogacy Agencies

Most people choose to work with a surrogacy agency to complete their journey. (Though you can also do an independent surrogacy journey on your own.) What does a surrogacy agency do? They are responsible for a wide range of responsibilities to help you through your gay surrogacy journey, including recruiting and screening your surrogate and managing most aspects of your journey, start to finish.

Reputable agencies should provide you with a main point of contact throughout your journey. Lastly, though it may not be the most exciting part of your journey, it's among the most important — your surrogacy agency will help ensure you've obtained all the appropriate insurance plans you'll need throughout your journey. 

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Surrogate Screening

ASRM Guidelines:

The American Society for Reproductive Medicine (ASRM), which sets guidelines for the ethical practice of surrogacy in the United States, advises that surrogates be between the ages of 21-45 years old — most tend to fall somewhere in the age range of 25 to 35. All surrogates must have completed at least one previous full-term pregnancy without major complications, and can have had no more than three cesarean deliveries. Guidelines also stipulate that surrogates must independently have sufficient emotional and financial support throughout the process. These guidelines, however, typically are just the very beginning of the screening process.

Mental health screening:

Surrogates undergo comprehensive psychological testing prior to being approved. This evaluation will seek to identify her motivations for wanting to become a surrogate, whether or not she has adequate support, both financially and emotionally, in her network, and additional measures such as her particular style of communication. Surrogates are also given a mental health test to help identify any potential personality or mental disorders that may complicate her ability to serve as a surrogate. Her partner or husband will be screened along many of these lines as well. Physical health screening: Applicants will also undergo extensive medical screening to ensure she is a proper candidate to serve as a surrogate. Typically, this will include a thorough review of her medical history, pre-pregnancy planning, a physical exam, a pap smear, STI testing, drug testing, and a uterine cavity evaluation. Surrogates will also be screened for blood antibodies to maximize the chances for a healthy pregnancy. Finally, the levels of certain hormones, like thyroid hormone are also checked.

Your surrogacy agency will be responsible for matching you with your surrogate — they will also help coach you through the matching process. Part of that matching process will take into account what type of relationship you have with your surrogate before, during and after the surrogacy journey. Though uncommon, it's important to be prepared — sometimes you may need to rematch with a new surrogate if something does not pan out with your first match. 

You can also choose to work with a family member or friend in what’s known as an altruistic surrogacy arrangement. Your surrogacy agency will also be responsible for matching you with a surrogate based on many factors — including:

What to consider before matching with a surrogate

Legal fit:

Your lawyer will help with the legality of matches, and determine if the match between you and your surrogate is legally sound.

Timing fit:

Your agency will also want to ensure there is a proper fit with regards to timing and scheduling between you, as the intended parent, and your potential surrogate match.

Personality fit:

In some ways, the most important part of the matching process is whether the intended parents and surrogate are a good personality fit. Agencies will try to generate matches so that both share the same expectations, hopes, and dreams for their upcoming journey.

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If your agency doesn't have a legal department in house, they should facilitate the process of helping you find a highly qualified assisted reproductive attorney who is knowledgeable about the laws regarding gay male surrogacy in your state. Your lawyer will also help you develop a detailed surrogacy contract with your surrogate that will help determine things like who will be at the appointments, under what circumstances a pregnancy may be terminated, and the type and frequency of contact throughout the pregnancy.

How to Choose a Surrogacy Agency and IVF Clinic

Your agency should provide you and your surrogate with the aid of mental health professionals whenever needed throughout the process. A gay surrogacy journey is exciting, but it’s not without stress — things like a failed embryo transfer, a miscarriage, the need for a second surrogate, or any other number of unforeseen complications can and do occur. In these instances, your surrogacy agency should be there to help connect you to professionals who can help.

Your surrogacy agency will also connect you with an escrow management company, which will be responsible for handling compensation and expenses for your surrogate and donor. Some agencies have their own escrow team in-house. During this process, your surrogate is going to have medical bills for prenatal care and delivery — any time those are sent in, they’ll be paid directly from escrow to the companies that provided services for your surrogate. The quality of agencies varies widely, so it’s important to do your research, and speak with several before making a decision. 

 

Fertility Clinics & IVF

You will also need to work with a fertility clinic to complete IVF as part of your gay surrogacy journey. Your fertility clinic will screen you, your egg donor, and your surrogate; conduct the embryo transfer; and monitor early pregnancy. For more detail on the process of IVF for gay couple surrogacy and single gay men, check out our comprehensive guide. 

Overview of the Gay IVF Process

 

The 6 Phases of Gay IVF 

The IVF process is unique for every gay male surrogacy journey, but there are some predetermined steps that most have in common. Here are the 6 steps gay men can expect during the IVF process. 

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1) Screening of sperm provider:  This includes an assessment of overall health, an examination of a sperm sample, and genetic testing to see if you are a carrier of certain recessive genetic diseases, such as cystic fibrosis. 

2) Find your egg donor: Next, you will need to find and select an egg donor, which you can do from any variety of sources (see below).  

3) Create embryos: Once you and your egg donor are screened and cleared, you will create embryos with the help of your fertility clinic. 

4) Match with a surrogate: Once you've created your embryos, you're ready to find and match with a surrogate mother.  

5) Transfer embryo: Once your surrogate is cleared by your IVF clinic, you're ready to conduct your first embryo transfer! 

6) Pregnancy and birth: A successful IVF transfer means your surrogate has achieved pregnancy. From here on out, your pregnancy will develop just like any other.

Where do I find a fertility clinic?

The quality of fertility clinics also varies widely — so it’s important to do your research and interview several before making a decision. You'll want to work with a physician and clinic with a long track record of success and a demonstrated commitment to helping gay, bi and trans men become dads. Be sure to come prepared to your first consult with questions to ask your fertility clinic before signing with them. New call-to-action

Where can I find an egg donor?

Before you begin IVF, you will also need to find an egg donor — who must meet certain requirements in order to donate eggs. There are several different places you can find one to work with:

  • Fertility clinics: Many fertility clinics have egg donors exclusively available for their IVF patients. 

  • Surrogacy agencies: In addition to matching you with a surrogate, some surrogacy agencies also have egg donor databases for you to choose from. 

  • Egg donor agencies: These agencies focus solely on egg donors, and recruit from across the country. They often help intended parents find donors who meet specific or unusual donor requirements.

  • Frozen donor egg banks: These facilities offer intended parents frozen eggs that were left over from another donor’s previous egg retrieval process.

  • Known donors: Some gay couples may have a family member or friend willing to donate her eggs. 

Surrogacy & IVF Costs

There’s no way around it — gay surrogacy costs a lot. Most experts agree that surrogacy for gay parents will cost, on average, around $135,000 — but it can easily stretch upwards of $200,000 depending on your unique situation and requirements.

Given the variability in surrogacy and IVF costs, it’s important the professionals you’re working with are very transparent about the costs involved in the process. There are four main areas that impact surrogacy costs:

Main Costs of a Gay Surrogacy Journey

Agency fees: $35,000 - $55,000

The agency fees refer to the professional costs associated with the coordination of your journey, legal work, social work screening, and the surrogate matching process. This includes all the associated services of the journey itself. Reputable agencies will ensure these costs are transparent and accessible — including a timeline of when certain expenses are expected to be paid.

IVF clinic: $25,000 - $50,000

The main fees incurred at your fertility clinic will be those associated with screening your egg donor, surrogate, and you — as well as those incurred during the embryo creation and transfer processes. There is a lot of variability in costs that can occur, however, depending on your unique set of circumstances. If you are partnered, and you both hope to contribute sperm, that will increase your costs since you will both need to undergo the screening and embryo creation process. With two sperm sources to consider, you may want to consider working with an experienced donor to help increase the odds that you will end up with a high number of quality eggs. Also, If you transfer more than one embryo, you will increase the likelihood of a twin pregnancy — which will also increase your costs.

Gestational carrier and egg donor: $60,000 to $80,000

These costs include the compensation to gestational carriers and egg donors, any needed travel costs, and any contingency fees that might arise — like bedrest or a c-section. Additional costs come from legal expenses, which are charged separately from the agency fee, and range from $8,000-$10,000 if all goes well. The location of your surrogate, donor and clinic will also impact your overall costs. Your surrogate and egg donor will go to your clinic at least twice — once for the medical screening, and again after the legal process is complete prior to transfer. Surrogates will typically need to stay in the same city as your clinic at least overnight, and maybe up to two or three days. Egg donors are typically required to stay nearby for five to 10 days, depending on how quickly their bodies mature eggs for retrieval. If your surrogate and donor don’t live nearby your clinic, you will need to cover their travel costs and hotel stays.

Insurance: $15,000 to $30,000:

You will also need to make sure both your surrogate and egg donor have insurance. Sometimes, a surrogate’s own insurance policy will cover her pregnancy, but increasingly they won’t. You will also need to pay for insurance for egg donors, who aren’t allowed to use their own insurance for any part of the egg donation process. International parents may have additional insurance costs to consider, because their baby will often not be covered under their own home insurance plan. That means they will have to buy insurance for their baby or babies.

How Can Gay Men Afford Surrogacy?

Break your journey into pieces: You don’t have to pay for your entire journey upfront, which allows you to approach and pay for your gay surrogacy process piece by piece.

Surrogacy loans: There are a couple of financing options in the field that provide parents loans between $20,000 and $65,000 that you can pay over the course of 3 to 6 years.

Employer assisted benefits: More and more employers are covering certain elements of a surrogacy journey for their employees. 

Altruistic surrogates and known egg donors: Some gay men may have friends or family members in their lives who are willing to serve as an "altruistic" surrogate or a known egg donor — meaning they will do so without compensation.

Yes, gay surrogacy is expensive — but planning ahead for your journey can help put this path to parenthood within your reach. For more information, visit our comprehensive guide to surrogacy costs — which includes breaks down ways to make your journey more affordable. 

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International Surrogacy

The United States is one of the only countries in the world where compensated gestational surrogacy is not only legal, but highly regulated. Working with reputable surrogacy professionals will ensure your surrogacy journey is highly ethical and safe for you, your surrogate and egg donor, and your baby.

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The good news is the U.S. surrogacy process doesn't differ that much for those living abroad, whether you're seeking a gay couple surrogacy journey or a single gay male surrogacy journey. But there are some key differences you should be aware of and prepare for. Some of these are listed below, but also be sure to check out our comprehensive guide to gay surrogacy in the U.S. for international intended parents. 

How is U.S. Surrogacy Different for International Intended Parents?

Travel

It may be obvious — but if you are pursuing surrogacy in the United States from abroad, international travel will be a factor in your journey. You can conduct the bulk of your journey remotely — and will undergo all needed screenings including your semen analysis at a local IVF lab. But you may want to travel to the U.S. to meet your surrogate in person, for example, or to be present for specific doctor's appointments. You will also obviously want to be in the country for your baby's birth — and will need to be present to secure your parenting rights and obtain all needed legal documentation. 

Insurance

Many international intended parents are confused by the insurance system in the United States (and we don't blame them!) Like all intended dads, you will need to explore insurance options for your surrogate and egg donor. But international intended parents will also need to take out an insurance policy for your newborn baby. 

Obtaining documents

All children born in the United States are automatically U.S. citizens — including those born via surrogacy. You will likely need to expedite the processing of your baby's birth certificate, a process that can normally take several months. Once you have your birth certificate in hand, you can then petition for your baby's U.S. passport as well.

Your home country's laws

You will need to determine the laws in your country — and what you will need to do to safely return with your baby. You will need a home country lawyer (in addition to a U.S.-based attorney) who will help guide you through any legal considerations based on your home country's laws. 

Surrogacy and HIV+ Gay Men

Can HIV+ gay men become biological dads? Thanks to a procedure known as sperm washing, the answer is yes! Here is what you need to know about approaching surrogacy and IVF as an HIV positive gay man.

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The "sperm washing" technique has been used since the mid 1990s — and today allows gay, bi and trans men living with HIV to safely become biological dads through surrogacy and IVF, without transmitting the HIV virus on to their surrogate or baby. Read on for more, and check out our comprehensive guide to pursuing surrogacy as an HIV-positive gay man here. 

What to Know About Surrogacy & HIV

Sperm washing

To conduct sperm washing, semen is first collected from the HIV positive partner. Through a separation process known as centrifugation, the sperm is removed from the seminal fluid. Since the HIV virus is carried in the seminal fluid, and not the sperm, this allows for a vastly decreased risk of HIV transmission to either the gestational carrier in a surrogacy arrangement, or the resulting child.

Fertility clinics

Your fertility clinic may conduct sperm washing in house — but many others will contract with an outside clinic that specializes in the procedure. One of the longest-established and most reputable programs is called the Special Program of Assisted Reproduction (SPAR) — a project of the Bedford Research Foundation Clinical Laboratory.

Transmission risks

While professionals will never tell you there is no risk, the research is pretty clear on the subject — there have been no documented cases of transmission when sperm washing has been conducted as a part of an IVF procedure. In fact, in 2016, Fertility and Sterility published a meta-analysis of 40 studies on the subject — and found zero transmissions of HIV following 11,585 sperm washing procedures with 4,000 women

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What are the most common questions gay, bi and trans men have about approaching surrogacy? 

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In our gay surrogacy Learning Center you'll find video responses to the most common questions answered by our surrogacy & IVF partner experts, as well as access to pre-recorded webinars, previously published feature stories, and an-ever growing list of additional resources to help you become a dad through surrogacy.

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FAQs

What is gay surrogacy?
Surrogacy allows gay men to have a biological connection to their child. The most common version of gay male surrogacy involves the intended dad or dad couple working with the egg of one woman to create an embryo, which another woman (called the "surrogate" or "gestational carrier") then carries to term.
What are gay surrogacy options?

Gay surrogacy options in the U.S.A. are either Gestational or Traditional. Commercial surrogacy involves paying the surrogate: altruistic surrogacy does not.

  • Gestational Surrogacy: In a gestational surrogacy arrangement, you will work with two women to create your family. The first woman will supply the eggs, which will be made into a fertilized egg, and the second woman (the surrogate) will carry the fertilized embryo to term. This means the surrogate will not be genetically related to the resulting child. This is the most common form of surrogacy practiced in the United States. 

  • Traditional Surrogacy: In this type of an arrangement, you will work with a surrogate who uses her own eggs to complete your gay surrogacy jounrey. This means she will be genetically related to the resulting child. This form of surrogacy is not practiced as often, and is illegal in some states.  

  • Commercial Surrogacy: In commercial surrogacy, a surrogate is paid by the intended parents for carrying and delivering a child for them. Commercial surrogacy is legal in most, but not all, states.

  • Altruistic Surrogacy: In altruistic surrogacy, a carrier, typically a friend or family member of the intended parent, will agree to carry a child for you for free. Altruistic surrogacy is legal in every state in the United States, and in many countries abroad.
How does gay surrogacy work?

Gay surrogacy will look a little bit different for everyone, but here are the steps you can expect in most gay male surrogacy journeys

  • Step 1: Hire Professionals: First, you will find and hire your LGBTQ competent surrogacy professionals. 

  • Step 2: Decide Whos Sperm to Use: For a gay couple surrogacy process, you will then need yo decide on whose sperm to use. You will then need to conduct some tests on the sperm to make sure it is viable.

  • Step 3: Choose an Egg Donor and Create Embryos: Next you will select your egg donor, and your IVF clinic will help you create embryos. 

  • Step 4: Match with a Surrogate: Now it’ll be time to match with a surrogate — your surrogacy agency will help you find and match with a surrogate who will be a great fit for your gay surrogacy journey. 

  • Step 5: Embryo Transfer: Once your surrogate is screened and cleared, you will then transfer your embryos to your surrogate’s uterus through IVF. 

  • Step 6: Pregnancy and Birth: Lastly comes your surrogate’s pregnancy — and the birth of your baby!
What is the difference between a gestational carrier vs surrogate?

The difference between a surrogate and a gestational carrier is that the surrogate’s eggs are used in the creation of the baby, so she is biologically connected to the baby. Most gay surrogacy journeys instead involve a gestational carrier, who carries the embryo created by fertilizing the egg donated by another woman in a lab, and then implanting it in the carrier to carry to term.

How do I find the best surrogacy agencies for a gay surrogacy journey?

It’s important to work with a surrogacy agency with a long track record of success and passion for helping gay, bi and trans men become dads through surrogacy. Your surrogacy agency will help you with: matching with a surrogate; securing needed insurance for your surrogate and egg donor; legal services; mental health services; and escrow management. 

To find an agency that will be the best fit for your gay surrogacy journey, be prepared to ask some questions during your intake process. Ask the agency what their success rate is like, and how long they have been in business. You will also want to ask how many gay surrogacy journeys they have helped complete — and ask to speak to previous LGBTQ clients. You will also want to know about their cost structure and price. For a list of GWK-vetted and approved surrogacy agencies, click here.

How do I find the best IVF clinics for a gay male surrogacy journey?

It’s important to work with an IVF clinic with a long track record of success and passion for helping gay, bi and trans men become dads through surrogacy. What is an IVF clinic used for? Your fertility clinic will help you: analyze your sperm; conduct recessive gene testing; conduct medical screenings of your surrogate and egg donor; create and transfer your embryos; and store any remaining embryos for future use. 

To find a fertility clinic that will be the best fit for your surrogacy journey, be prepared to ask some questions during your intake process. Ask the doctor / clinic what their success rate is like, and how long they have been in business. You will also want to ask how many gay surrogacy journeys they have helped complete — and ask to speak to previous LGBTQ clients. You will also want to know about their cost structure and price. 

Finally, you can and should also visit the SART website, the primary organization of professionals dedicated to the practice of IVF, or assisted reproductive technology (ART).

How expensive is surrogacy for gay parents?

Surrogacy for gay parents average between $135,000 to $200,000 or more. There are four main areas that cover the costs of a gay surrogacy journey::

  • Agency fees: $35,000 - $55,000: The agency fees refer to the professional costs associated with the coordination of your journey, legal work, social work screening, and the surrogate matching process. This includes all the associated services of the journey itself. Reputable agencies will ensure these costs are transparent and accessible — including a timeline of when certain expenses are expected to be paid.

  • IVF clinic: $25,000 - $50,000: The main fees incurred at your fertility clinic will be those associated with screening your egg donor, surrogate, and you — as well as those incurred during the embryo creation and transfer processes. There is a lot of variability in costs that can occur, however, depending on your unique set of circumstances. 

  • Gestational carrier and egg donor: $60,000 to $80,000: These costs include the compensation to gestational carriers and egg donors, any needed travel costs, and any contingency fees that might arise — like bedrest or a c-section. Additional costs come from legal expenses, which are charged separately from the agency fee, and range from $8,000-$10,000 if all goes well. You may also need to cover costs associated with travel and accommodations for your surrogate and egg donor. 

  • Insurance: $15,000 to $30,000: You will also need to make sure both your surrogate and egg donor have insurance. Sometimes, a surrogate’s own insurance policy will cover her pregnancy, but increasingly they won’t. You will also need to pay for insurance for egg donors, who aren’t allowed to use their own insurance for any part of the egg donation process. International parents may have additional insurance costs to consider, because their baby will often not be covered under their own home insurance plan. That means they will have to buy insurance for their baby or babies.