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Dolce and Gabbana Now Support LGBT Families?

Well, well, well. Dolce & Gabbana, not above pandering, has taken to sewing cartoon patches of same-sex families to bags and shirts on the eve of Italy's divisive marriage equality vote.


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Domenico Dolce and Stefano Gabbana, the Italian designers behind the brand, drew the ire of patron saint of gay families Sir Elton John when they insulted his children last March. Dolce attacked the very idea of two men raising a child as contrary to his Catholic beliefs in an interview published by Panorama:

"...You are born and you have a father and a mother, or at least it should be so. I am not convinced of what I call the children of chemistry, synthetic children. Wombs for rent, seeds selected from a catalog…. Procreation must be an act of love. Not even today's psychiatrists are prepared to deal with the effects of these experiments." 

Dolce and Gabbana insulted all families built through in-vitro fertilization and surrogacy, but Sir Elton, father to two children born via surrogacy, took it personally. He took to Instagram to launch the #boycottdolcegabbana hashtag.

"How dare you refer to my beautiful children as "synthetic," he captioned the photo. And shame on you for wagging your judgemental little fingers at IVF - a miracle that has allowed legions of loving people, both straight and gay, to fulfil their dreams of having children. Your archaic thinking is out of step with the times, just like your fashions. I shall never wear Dolce & Gabbana ever again. #BoycottDolceGabbana" 

Burn. Ricky Martin and Al Roker, both dads of IVF kids, jumped into the fray. So did Madonna, Martina Narvatilova, Victoria Beckham and Courtney Love Cobain.

.@dolcegabbana ur voices R 2powerfull 2B spreading so much h8 https://t.co/30Oe2hcxNt Wake up,Its 2015 Luv urselves guys #boycottdolcegabbana

— Ricky Martin (@ricky_martin) March 15, 2015

Dolce and Gabbana responded by coining their own hashtag, #boycotteltonjohn, which failed to trend.

They're trying again, this time with a hashtag #dgfamily for the apparel and accessory line.

Some commenters love the bags and the about-face; others not so much. The still-sore have revived the #boycottdolcegabbana hashtag, adding a new one to the mix: #VoltaGabbana, a play on the Italian word for "turncoat."

The company has yet to officially comment on the line. Gabbana, however, has interacted with his Instagram followers in response to the backlash.

Still no word from Sir Elton.

It took Dolce until August last year to issue an apology for his March statement, which he did in an interview with Vogue. After soul-searching and talking, he said, he realized he'd been too quick to judge. It reads like a standard-issue "please buy my stuff again" apology.

Gabbana offered some perspective to the ex-couple's ultra-conservative family values—and their pain.

“When they ask if I wanted to be a parent, I say yes, of course, why not? But it’s not possible in Italy,” he told Vogue. “I had thought of going to California and having a baby, but I couldn’t bring the baby back to Italy because you need the mother’s passport. I asked about adoption in Italy. It’s very hard for a straight couple here—imagine if you are gay!”

Italy's parliament is expected to vote this month on a marriage equality bill. If enacted, the law would ease the process of adopting children born via surrogacy abroad by allowing gay people to adopt their partner's biological children.

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