A Year Later Gay Dads Reflect: Are We Safe in Trump's America?

It is fair to say that on November 8, 2016, many in our community were excited and filled with hope to see the first woman President of the United States. But that didn't happen. Instead, a year ago this month, the country chose (ahem, the electoral college chose) Donald Trump as its President.


No matter what your political views are, we can probably all agree that this has been a tempestuous year in politics. We asked our community if life had changed for them and their family. Here are some of their responses.

"I have tons of family and friends who are pro gay and voted for Trump."
-Joey Brown

Joey Brown from Florida began the conversation by saying, "I think most LGBTQ people who voted for Trump on the basis of human rights are likely disappointed. I have tons of family and friends who are pro gay and voted for Trump. A lot of these older dudes in politics don't know what to do when it comes to how to treat us. They know where society is and continuing to go yet they come from a generation where it was acceptable to consider us less moral."

Two people responded to Joey's comment. Cory Powers said, "A zookeeper knows that no matter how much a predator feigns approachability it is STILL dangerous."

And Josh Fetchik added, "They treat us like we're less human, not just less moral. Straight criminals get more respect from them than we do."

"It scares the crap out of me." -Russell Owen Cluff

"I've begged my husband to move us to a country where I don't feel my rights and life are threatened," shared Russell Owen Cluff. "I see a lot of similarities to when the Nazis took power in Germany. It was take a few rights away here, blame this group of people while they fight with everyone take away more rights blame others again and no one fought back. We all know how that ended. It scares the crap out of me."

Sæþór Benjamín Randalsson, who is originally from Virginia but now lives in Iceland, shared that his life has indeed changed and that he no longer feels safe coming to America.

"The risk of violence or oppression without recourse is too great for me."
-Sæþór Benjamín Randalsson

"We went from a family with land in the USA and plans to build a vacation house, to never planning to visit again. I was born and raised in Virginia, but both my latest personal visits and the uptick in violence makes me feel unsafe. We were hassled by two different members of state institutions (homophobia by immigration, and a near shakedown by the small town police). Combined with shopping at a mall with no less than ten armed security and ten armed police (that I counted, probably more). Plus an armed police at a middle school volleyball game in a town of 4,000 people. Add in the neo-nazi KKK rallies, daily mass shootings, and overall societal unravelling on top... The risk of violence or oppression without recourse is too great for me when we have a safe alternative in our home base of Iceland where none of this violence or micro aggression rear their head. It's a shame because there are aspects of my home country I would have liked to share with our son and he will miss getting to know my extended family. "

"Still have my freedom." -Michael Arnone

Michael Arnone has a contrary view to Sæþór's. His response was, "Not one bit. Still have my freedom, my family, and health."

Please tell us your thoughts. Do you feel safe today under a Trump administration?

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