Gay Dad Life

Jason and Zack, On the Road to Adoption

Jason and Zack have recently celebrated their first wedding anniversary. Jason, an actor and teacher, has always wanted to be a dad. Whereas his husband Zack, a personal assistant and student, didn't see fatherhood in his future, until he met Jason. Together 6 years, and married for 1, these two men are beginning their journey to parenthood, and they couldn't be more excited. We found out where the two dads-to-be are on their path, and what kind of dads they hope to be.


Tell us about your preferred path to parenthood. Adoption was the best choice for us to become a family (financially) and felt like we wanted to help a child who needed a home. We feel we will become foster parents down the line. I've always wanted to be a dad. I lost my father at the age of 16 and he taught me more in those 16 years than I could ever imagine. My husband never thought he would be a dad, just due to the social issues of gays adopting when he was younger, so it wasn't in his plan. But after meeting me, he can not wait to have a child and was the one that suggested we start the process.

Have you found enough information about your preferred path to parenthood? We definitely needed to do some research about adoption before we started working with an organization, which I will admit was a bit overwhelming. We have been extremely lucky with an supportive family. We have a great support group that is excited for us to become fathers.

What do you think is your biggest obstacle to becoming a dad? You know, I honestly haven't thought about the obstacles. As a couple, we try and tackle the problems that come our way the best we can.

What steps have you taken towards becoming a dad? We have started the process with a organization in our town (Chicago) and gone to classes. The Home Study process is a long one, thats for sure.

What fears or concerns do you have about becoming a dad? Does your sexuality/gender identity play into those fears? I think anyone that becomes a parent, has the fear of making mistakes. Am I doing this right, is a constant question I'm sure we will ask ourselves. I know that some in society won't agree with us become fathers and thats a fear that I will have throughout the first few months of being a day. We are extremely lucky to have a very supportive family that are so excited for us to have a baby.

What most excites you about becoming a dad? Oh wow...Everything! Family vacations. Christmas. Going to school. Even the little things (talking for the first time, walking, etc.). So..everything?

How soon do you hope to start your family? Once we get through our home study process. Can not wait!!

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When his sons, Jason and Chris, were young, "Queer Eye" Star Karamo Brown repeated the same saying to them: "You are perfectly designed."

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The illustrations, by Anoosha Syed, also make a point of displaying families of a variety of races and sexual orientations throughout the book.

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Among the more interesting findings was this one: the cost of family planning is relatively similar for all LGBTQ people, regardless of income level. This shows "that the desire to have children exists regardless of financial security," the report's authors conclude.

Research for the report was conducted through an online survey of 500 LGBTQ adults over the age of 18, and was conducted between July 11-18, 2018. For comparison, the survey also included 1,004 adults who did not identify as LGBTQ.

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  • 29% of all LGBTQ+ respondents reported an annual household income under $25,000 compared to 22% of non-LGBTQ+ respondents.
  • 33% of black LGBTQ+ respondents, 32% of female-identified LGBTQ+ respondents, and 31% of trans/gender non-conforming LGBTQ+ respondents reported annual household incomes below $25,000.
  • Respondents for this survey were selected from among those who have volunteered to participate in online surveys and polls. All sample surveys and polls may be subject to multiple sources of error, including, but not limited to sampling error, coverage error, error associated with nonresponse, and error associated with question-wording and response options.29% of all LGBTQ+ respondents reported an annual household income under $25,000 compared to 22% of non-LGBTQ+ respondents.
  • 33% of black LGBTQ+ respondents, 32% of female-identified LGBTQ+ respondents, and 31% of trans/gender non-conforming LGBTQ+ respondents reported annual household incomes below $25,000.
  • Regardless of annual household income, 45-53% of LGBTQ+ millennials are planning to become parents for the first time or add another child to their family. Those making less than $25,000 a year are considering becoming parents at very similar rates as those making over $100,000.
  • Data from the Family Building Survey reveals that LGBTQ+ households making over $100,000 annually are considering the full range of paths to parenthood, from surrogacy and private adoption to foster care and IVF. The most popular options under consideration in this income bracket are private adoption (74% are considering), foster care (42%), and IVF or reciprocal IVF (21%). At the other end of the economic spectrum, for LGBTQ+ individuals in households making less than $25,000 annually, the most commonly considered paths to parenthood are intercourse (35% are considering), foster care (30%), and adoption (23%).

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