Gay Dad Family Stories

This Couple is Using 'Wheel of Fortune' Winnings to Help Fund Their Adoption

Need to raise money for your adoption fund? Why not try your luck on Wheel of Fortune like these guys!

Doug and Nick Roberts connected three and a half years ago via a dating app, and on their first date, the two immediately felt a connection. Doug, a psychologist, and Nick, a neuroscientist, were married 18 months later. Today the couple live in the suburbs of Philadelphia, and they're ready to start their next exciting adventure together: fatherhood.

The husbands would like to have children, and Nick has always wanted to adopt. "We considered surrogacy, and may consider it in the future as we expand our family," said Doug, "but right now, it is cost-prohibitive. Adoption was easily the right choice for us as we begin to grow our family.


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Doug and Nick began their adoption research and found two local adoption agencies that are both very inclusive of LGBTQ families. "We were able to obtain a lot of information directly from them, and the workshops they provide for expectant parents are wonderfully informative," said Doug. "Of course, having resources like Gays With Kids and Philadelphia Family Pride helped us as well, as we were able to see personal stories of couples who have been through the process."

After settling upon an agency that felt the best fit, Doug and Nick attended several adoption workshops, learning the language of families formed through adoption and how to successfully navigate the social and emotional challenges that they will inevitably face. "We plan to start the home study process within the next few months," said Nick. "Currently, we are assembling a profile book with our pictures and introductions of who we are and what we enjoy doing." (The dads recently attended the Ivory Portrait Studios Gay Dad Event and shot photos for their profile book (including this story's feature image!)

While the dads-to-be are eager to move quickly with their fatherhood journey, the cost of adoption has been a challenge. "We would start our family as soon as possible, if we were financially able to so," shared Doug. "Our biggest obstacle at the moment is building our savings for our adoption fund." So the husbands have have tried to figure out creative ways they can potentially add to their savings and reach their goal more quickly. One of those ways was to enter Wheel of Fortune. "I've watched the show since I was a kid, and I've gotten pretty good at solving puzzles at home," continued Doug. "I decided to audition when the show came to the area for traveling auditions, and I ended up making it! I taped an episode of the show in November, and it aired in January. It was definitely a one-of-a-kind experience, and my winnings helped us pay off our credit card debt so that all of our extra money we earn can go straight towards adoption savings!"

Whilst they move closer to the financial goal, Nick and Doug shared what excites this most and what they're most anxious about when it comes to parenting. "Like most expectant parents, I think our biggest concerns are whether we'll be good at parenting," said Nick. "How will this change our life? Will we still be good dads, even when we're tired, sick, or stressed?" Doug continued, "I hope our worries are a sign that we will be conscientious parents, and strive to provide our kids with all of our best. I think we also have fears about how our child will be treated in school and around other people, including family members, being the child of two gay dads."

But despite their fears, they're excited to have the energy of a little kid around the house. They can't wait to play, create and experience the ups and downs of life with their little one. They're also excited to see each other as dads, and grow alongside their child.

We're excited to follow the dads-to-be journey and wish them the best on their adoption journey!


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"Under Their Spell": Congrats to all the Gay Dads Whose Families Grew in June!

Wishing all of these gay dads whose families expanded in May and June a lifetime of happiness! Congrats to everyone in our community on their recent births and adoptions!


Congratulations to dads Ben and Chris on the birth of their daughter Elizabeth!

Seattle husbands Ben and Chris welcomed daughter Elizabeth, May 18, 2019.

"We started our adoption plans last August an after getting all signed up with our agency, we were so lucky to match after only about a month and with a mom pretty close to us geographically!" shared Ben. "We've loved getting to know the birth mom and to go through this journey together, including being with her for her C-section and recovery."

Although the time in the hospital was exhausting emotionally and physically, the new dads couldn't have asked for better care or more accepting and accommodating medical staff. "When we finally met her and got to hold her, we were both in awe of how perfect she was. We're over the moon and under her spell 👨👨👧❤️"

Congratulations to dads Lance and Trevor on finalizing the adoption of their daughter Ava!

Lance and Trevan met in college in 2004 and knew right away that they were soul mates. "We always knew we wanted to be dads and started our adoption process in 2015." The Santa Monica dads welcomed little Ava into their lives in 2018.

"In our minds and hearts, she was ours from the moment we laid eyes on her," said Trevan. "Signing the final adoption papers was very emotional as it was the last step in a very long process. Seeing the smile on her face and her sweet baby giggles is the best thing about being her dad. She makes it easy and we are so lucky to be her dads."

"Our sweet Ava was worth the wait!"

Congratulations to dads Melton and Thomas on finalizing the adoption of their sons Gabriel and Braiden!

On May 17, Florida dads Melton and Thomas celebrated the adoption of their sons Gabriel and Braiden, who join sisters Summer, Kendra and Ashanti. This loving family was created through foster to adopt.

"They are siblings and have been with us since August 2017," said Thomas. "It's been a long journey we have been on with all the kids. But a sense of relief from all of the court hearings, case manger visits, guardian ad litem visits, but all worth it in the end to be able to serve as advocates for the kids."

"Most of all, adoptions provide permanency which every child deserves."

Congratulations to dads Paul and Ken on the birth of their daughter Charlotte!

A new family of four! Paul and his husband Ken welcomed daughter Charlotte in May and their dog Gigi is already a big fan.

"All we can say is that our journey to fatherhood was a true adventure which ended in the best possible way," said Philadelphia dad Paul. "We feel so blessed to be Charlotte's dads, and are inspired by all the other gay dads who paved the way before us."

"It felt so amazing to hold Charlotte for the first time - truly an awe-inspiring experience. The feelings of love are indescribable. She is a true "rockstar" and we are so proud of her."

Congratulations to dads Ned and James on finalizing the adoption of their son Aiden! 

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The finalization was an exciting day for the family. "It was surreal, after all the waiting, to know he was official our son," said Ned. The celebrated with a nice lunch, and they're planning for a party with close friends and family soon.

Congrats to this forever family!

Congratulations to dads Ryan and Marcin on the birth of their daughter Lexi!

Baby Lexi joins older brother Liam and their dads couldn't be more thrilled! "Lexi joined our family through open adoption, but it was a pretty unique journey," shared Ryan. "We'd only been waiting three weeks when we got a call at 5pm Saturday that a little girl had been born at the hospital closest to our home and her birthmother had chosen us."

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Billy, Joe and Caleb with mothers / grandmothers and great-grandmothers.

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"They kept trying to hatch fish and stones," Jaeger said.

So the zookeepers loaned the penguins an egg from a female penguin, who is apparently uninterested in hatching eggs on her own, according to the BBC.

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A single gay dad AND drag queen on television? It's about damn time if you ask us.

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As reported in Gay City News, the case concerns Utah's 2005 law on surrogacy, which was enacted prior to the legalization of same-sex marriage in the state. As a result, the content of the law is gendered, saying that surrogacy contracts should only be enforceable if the "intended mother" is unable to bear a child. When a gay couple approached District Judge Jeffrey C. Wilcox to enter into a surrogacy arrangement, he denied them, arguing that the state's law only concerned opposite sex couples.

"This opinion is an important contribution to the growing body of cases adopting a broad construction of the precedent created by Obergefell v. Hodges and the Supreme Court's subsequent decision in Pavan v. Smith," according to GCN. "It's also worth noting that same-sex couples in Utah now enjoy a right denied them here in New York, where compensated gestational surrogacy contracts remain illegal for all couples."

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