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"A New Adventure": Congrats to Gay Dads Whose Families Grew in January!

Wishing all of these gay dads whose families expanded a lifetime of happiness! Congrats to everyone in our community on their recent births and adoptions!

Gay men go through a lot of ups and downs on the path to parenthood. It can be one of the most emotionally draining times in our lives. But as each of these families who are celebrating births and adoptions this month agree: it's worth every hardship.

Congrats dads!

We are also excited to announce that this post is brought to you by Choice Network in Ohio. Choice Network is a national leader in LGBTQ adoption. They have a goal of 50% of their families being created with LGBTQ people. "It is our core value that love makes a family." We're thrilled to be partnering with Choice Network to offer our congrats to dads whose families grew this month!


Congratulations new dads Josh and Adam on the adoption of their newborn daughter!

This Dallas, Texas, couple always wanted to be dads, and on the night before Christmas, their dreams came true!

"The feeling holding our daughter for the first time was indescribable," shared Josh. "We have a tremendous level of joy thinking about what the future will hold for our family of three."

So far, despite the tiredness, fatherhood has been an incredible journey for the new dads. "While it has been tiring," said Adam, "every day brings a new adventure."

Congratulations to David and CJ on finalizing the adoption of their youngest son, Logan!

CJ and David spoke about kids and becoming dads on their first date 13 years ago. They were married in 2014, and adopted their eldest Ethan from birth. (He was born 2 months premature and had to spend 8 weeks in the NICU.)

They adopted Logan who is 6 months old through the same agency, Adoption Choices of Nevada, who the husbands say work with loads of gay couples.

How did the dads feel on the day Logan's adoption was finalized? "Ecstatic!" said David. "CJ and I talked kids, and specifically about having two, on our first date! It took a little longer than we had planned but we couldn't be happier that our family is complete!"

Congrats to this Colorado family!

Congratulations to Yari and Alessandro on the birth of their daughter, Zoe!

Becoming dads has been a dream come true for Italian fathers Yari and Alessandro. Their little girl joined their family in November 2018 via surrogacy in Los Angeles.

"It's been years since I realized that, with all my strength, I would try to be happy and have a family," said Yari.

And it was with that focus and drive, the dads achieved their ultimate happiness: fatherhood.

Congratulations to JC and Wim on the birth of their twins, Liam and Luka!

For new dads Wim and JC, their path to fatherhood was a two year journey that reached its destination on December 29, 2018. "It was exciting, emotional, tough, and a great blessing to us," said JC.

The South African dads had two embryos implanted - one from each dad - and they were thrilled that both were successful. "We are so lucky that both implants attached and we are now dads to two beautiful boys who couldn't wait to join us and arrived on week 30," said Wim. "A great start to 2019!"

When describing what it was like holding their sons for the first time, JC said they were so small it felt like they would break if touched. "However, once we held them, the whole world disappeared and the amount of love and joy overwhelmed us in a perfect moment of peace."

Congratulations to Daniel and Jack on the birth of their twins!

"Welcome to the world Berkowitz-Cohen Twins!"

Ezra and Ava were born via surrogate on December 28, 2018, and their two dads were so excited to welcome them!

"Holding our babies for the first time was surreal, exciting, and validating after all the time and effort dedicated to bringing them into the world," said Daniel.

And how's life as new dads of twins going? "Not as crazy as you'd think," said Jack, "as long as you have one person per baby." The dads added that taking shifts to sleep was very important - we couldn't agree more!

Congratulations to new dads Brandon and Mitch on the adoption of their daughter, Raya!

Born October 4, 2018, Raya's dads first learned about her a day after she was born. They'd just been approved by their adoption agency less than a month earlier, and were thrilled when they got the call about Raya.

"On October 5th they called us at 10:30am to ask us if we were interested in a baby that was born the night before," said Brandon. "We said we definitely were!"

By 2:30pm, they heard that the birth mother had chosen them, and they had 5 hours to get everything ready then come collect their daughter.

"It's been a life-changing experience and we can't imagine life without her," said Mitch.

"Holding her for the first time made our dram of being dads a reality," added Brandon, "but it truly hit us when we loaded her in the car to go home the next day."

Raya's adoption will be finalized in April 2019.

Congratulations to Brett and Jimmy on finalizing the adoption of the youngest, Jayce Peter!

Two years ago, Jimmy and Brett became first-time dads when they adopted their eldest son Taylor. The weekend before Mother's Day last year, they received a call from Taylor's birth mom who was pregnant again, and she asked if they wanted to adopt again. They jumped at the opportunity.

Jayce was born August 31, and his dads were there at the birth. Nine months later, his adoption was finalized.

"We felt so relieved to finalize since Taylor was 9 months [by then]," said Jimmy. "We celebrated at my mom's house with immediate family and had a cake that said 'We are complete.'"

Congrats to this forever family of four!

Congratulations to Jason and Brian on finalizing the adoption of their daughter, Sydney!

On December 20, 2018, at a little over six months of age, Sydney was officially adopted by her two dads, Jason and Brian.

"We felt a combination of relief and joy once the proceedings were complete," said Jason. "Sydney has always felt like a member of our family and it means so much for it all to be 'official.'"

The Salt Lake City family celebrated at Hires Big H, a Utah classic which has accidentally become a go-to for all their family celebrations. "Christmas is pretty great, but December 20 just might be our family's new favorite holiday."

Congratulations to Jason and Micah on the birth of their daughter, Rowan!

Rowan's birth mom specifically searched for a gay couple to be the adoptive dads of her child. The birth mom's brother is transgender and she wanted to be sure that the baby would grow up in a family that would welcome any gender identity or sexual preference." And so she selected Jason and Micah. The dads were even in the room when Rowan drew her first breath and Jason even cut the umbilical cord.

"It was really humbling and inspiring to see the birth mother go through so much pain, and sacrifice so much, all because she trusted that we could offer the child a warm and loving home," said Jason."

On January 3, 2018, Rowan came into the word with her wide open. "She was ready to take everything in," continued Jason, "and to become a part of our world."

"We are honored and overjoyed to be her parents, and we'll do everything we can to make her life wonderful."

Love makes good families. Whether traditional or non-conforming to historically accepted definitions of family - we accept you. If you are ready and willing to participate in open adoption and honoring the pregnant person who has chosen you, you are welcome here. It's that simple. We also will fight for you. Choice Network does not shy away from hate. We are armed with well documented research, honest stories of our own, and the inherent truth that love makes good families.

We proudly carry the Human Rights Campaign status of Leader in Supporting and Serving LGBTQ Families!

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Utah Court Rules Gay Couples Can't Be Excluded From Surrogacy Contracts

The Utah Supreme Court found in favor of a gay couple attempting to enter into a surrogacy contract.

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Earlier this month, the Utah Supreme Court ruled that a same-sex couples can't be excluded from entering into enforceable surrogacy contracts, and sent a case concerning a gay male couple back to trial court to approve their petition for a surrogacy arrangement.

As reported in Gay City News, the case concerns Utah's 2005 law on surrogacy, which was enacted prior to the legalization of same-sex marriage in the state. As a result, the content of the law is gendered, saying that surrogacy contracts should only be enforceable if the "intended mother" is unable to bear a child. When a gay couple approached District Judge Jeffrey C. Wilcox to enter into a surrogacy arrangement, he denied them, arguing that the state's law only concerned opposite sex couples.

"This opinion is an important contribution to the growing body of cases adopting a broad construction of the precedent created by Obergefell v. Hodges and the Supreme Court's subsequent decision in Pavan v. Smith," according to GCN. "It's also worth noting that same-sex couples in Utah now enjoy a right denied them here in New York, where compensated gestational surrogacy contracts remain illegal for all couples."

Read the full article here.

Gay Dad Family Stories

This Couple is Using 'Wheel of Fortune' Winnings to Help Fund Their Adoption

Need to raise money for your adoption fund? Why not try your luck on Wheel of Fortune like these guys!

Doug and Nick Roberts connected three and a half years ago via a dating app, and on their first date, the two immediately felt a connection. Doug, a psychologist, and Nick, a neuroscientist, were married 18 months later. Today the couple live in the suburbs of Philadelphia, and they're ready to start their next exciting adventure together: fatherhood.

The husbands would like to have children, and Nick has always wanted to adopt. "We considered surrogacy, and may consider it in the future as we expand our family," said Doug, "but right now, it is cost-prohibitive. Adoption was easily the right choice for us as we begin to grow our family.

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It's time to fine tune your dating skills because you're about to enter into the most important courtship you'll encounter. And it all starts with the biggest first date of your life.

And it's with a woman.

This woman is your gestational carrier; the woman who will carry and care for your baby until she delivers this little bundle of joy right into your arms.

Matching with a gestational carrier – or surrogate – is one of the most exciting milestones in your journey to parenthood through surrogacy. However, it can also be the most nerve wracking. Chances are you've seen a profile about your potential surrogate match so you know a little bit about her and her family. But before you commit to this woman, you'll need to meet her first – either in person or via video. And this is one first meeting you've probably never prepared for!

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Gay Dad Penguins Strike Again! This Time in Berlin Zoo

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And now, please welcome Skipper and Ping in Berlin to the latest list of gay dad penguins! As soon as the two emperor penguins arrived at the city's zoo, they set about trying to start a family, said Berlin Zoo spokesman Maximilian Jaege to DPA news.

"They kept trying to hatch fish and stones," Jaeger said.

So the zookeepers loaned the penguins an egg from a female penguin, who is apparently uninterested in hatching eggs on her own, according to the BBC.

Unsurprisingly, the gay penguins are killing it as parents. "The two male penguins are acting like exemplary parents, taking turns to warm the egg," Jaeger said,

Read the whole article on DPA here.

Change the World

Hungarian Company Raising Money for LGBTQ+ Organization with a LEGO® Heart

Startup WE LOVE WHAT YOU BUILD is helping combat misinformation and prejudice in Central and Eastern Europe

Guest Post from WE LOVE WHAT YOU BUILD

WE LOVE WHAT YOU BUILD is an innovative startup venture that sells LEGO® parts and unique creations. The core values of our company include social equality regardless of gender identity or origin. As LEGO® is a variety of colors and shapes, so are the people.

We all know that LEGO® is a brand that nearly everyone knows and likes between the age of 3 and 99 so this gives a great opportunity to connect unique LEGO® creations and Pride. We started a fundraising campaign for a Hungarian LGBTQ+ organization who's aim is to bring people closer to the LGBTQ+ community, they help to combat misinformation and prejudice regarding LGBTQ+ issues in Central- Eastern Europe since 2000.

You might know that gender equality and the circumstances of LGBTQ+ people is not the easiest in the former communist Eastern European countries like Hungary so this program is in a real need for help. For example a couple of month ago a member of the government said that homosexual people are not equal part of our society.

The essence of the campaign is when one buys a Pride Heart, a custom creation made of brand new and genuine LEGO® bricks the organization gets $10.00 donation so they can continue their important work. This Pride Heart is a nice necklace, a decoration in your home, and a cool gift to the one you love.

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"I've never done female impersonation," the openly gay actor told OutSmart Magazine, "so I tried to learn really quick. You will know them all; I was very familiar with all of them. There were plenty of talk shows and performances on YouTube to study. I learned that their breathing was very informative."

A single gay dad AND drag queen on television? It's about damn time if you ask us.

Read the full interview with Cahoon here.

Personal Essays by Gay Dads

Thoughts and Prayers Aren't Working:​ One Father's Plea for Gun Reform

One gay dad's plea to our leaders to enact sensible gun control

My articles on GaysWithKids aspire to be lighthearted, helpful and humorous. This one won't be any of those things. Because I'm feeling heavyhearted, helpless and sad. Last week I woke up to news of yet another mass shooting. This time at a family-friendly Garlic Festival in northern California. I don't know if it's because this one hit so close to home, or if it's because the headline included a picture of the innocent 6-year old who was among those killed, but I am overcome with emotion. But mostly I am angry. And I don't know what to do with my anger.

Then, just a few days later came two additional horrific mass shootings that stole the lives of at least 32 more innocent people, many of them children. And then there's the "everyday" gun violence that plagues American cities like Chicago, where guns injured another 46 people this past weekend alone… creating so much turmoil, a hospital had to briefly stop taking patients.

How does one verbalize the collective sadness felt around the world? One can't. And that's why I am asking everyone reading this article to commit to getting involved in some way, to help end this epidemic once and for all. Even though the solution is so obvious, we can't allow ourselves to become numb to mass shootings. Because becoming numb isn't going to save anyone.

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