Sponsored

"A New Adventure": Congrats to Gay Dads Whose Families Grew in January!

Wishing all of these gay dads whose families expanded a lifetime of happiness! Congrats to everyone in our community on their recent births and adoptions!

Gay men go through a lot of ups and downs on the path to parenthood. It can be one of the most emotionally draining times in our lives. But as each of these families who are celebrating births and adoptions this month agree: it's worth every hardship.

Congrats dads!

We are also excited to announce that this post is brought to you by Choice Network in Ohio. Choice Network is a national leader in LGBTQ adoption. They have a goal of 50% of their families being created with LGBTQ people. "It is our core value that love makes a family." We're thrilled to be partnering with Choice Network to offer our congrats to dads whose families grew this month!


Congratulations new dads Josh and Adam on the adoption of their newborn daughter!

This Dallas, Texas, couple always wanted to be dads, and on the night before Christmas, their dreams came true!

"The feeling holding our daughter for the first time was indescribable," shared Josh. "We have a tremendous level of joy thinking about what the future will hold for our family of three."

So far, despite the tiredness, fatherhood has been an incredible journey for the new dads. "While it has been tiring," said Adam, "every day brings a new adventure."

Congratulations to David and CJ on finalizing the adoption of their youngest son, Logan!

CJ and David spoke about kids and becoming dads on their first date 13 years ago. They were married in 2014, and adopted their eldest Ethan from birth. (He was born 2 months premature and had to spend 8 weeks in the NICU.)

They adopted Logan who is 6 months old through the same agency, Adoption Choices of Nevada, who the husbands say work with loads of gay couples.

How did the dads feel on the day Logan's adoption was finalized? "Ecstatic!" said David. "CJ and I talked kids, and specifically about having two, on our first date! It took a little longer than we had planned but we couldn't be happier that our family is complete!"

Congrats to this Colorado family!

Congratulations to Yari and Alessandro on the birth of their daughter, Zoe!

Becoming dads has been a dream come true for Italian fathers Yari and Alessandro. Their little girl joined their family in November 2018 via surrogacy in Los Angeles.

"It's been years since I realized that, with all my strength, I would try to be happy and have a family," said Yari.

And it was with that focus and drive, the dads achieved their ultimate happiness: fatherhood.

Congratulations to JC and Wim on the birth of their twins, Liam and Luka!

For new dads Wim and JC, their path to fatherhood was a two year journey that reached its destination on December 29, 2018. "It was exciting, emotional, tough, and a great blessing to us," said JC.

The South African dads had two embryos implanted - one from each dad - and they were thrilled that both were successful. "We are so lucky that both implants attached and we are now dads to two beautiful boys who couldn't wait to join us and arrived on week 30," said Wim. "A great start to 2019!"

When describing what it was like holding their sons for the first time, JC said they were so small it felt like they would break if touched. "However, once we held them, the whole world disappeared and the amount of love and joy overwhelmed us in a perfect moment of peace."

Congratulations to Daniel and Jack on the birth of their twins!

"Welcome to the world Berkowitz-Cohen Twins!"

Ezra and Ava were born via surrogate on December 28, 2018, and their two dads were so excited to welcome them!

"Holding our babies for the first time was surreal, exciting, and validating after all the time and effort dedicated to bringing them into the world," said Daniel.

And how's life as new dads of twins going? "Not as crazy as you'd think," said Jack, "as long as you have one person per baby." The dads added that taking shifts to sleep was very important - we couldn't agree more!

Congratulations to new dads Brandon and Mitch on the adoption of their daughter, Raya!

Born October 4, 2018, Raya's dads first learned about her a day after she was born. They'd just been approved by their adoption agency less than a month earlier, and were thrilled when they got the call about Raya.

"On October 5th they called us at 10:30am to ask us if we were interested in a baby that was born the night before," said Brandon. "We said we definitely were!"

By 2:30pm, they heard that the birth mother had chosen them, and they had 5 hours to get everything ready then come collect their daughter.

"It's been a life-changing experience and we can't imagine life without her," said Mitch.

"Holding her for the first time made our dram of being dads a reality," added Brandon, "but it truly hit us when we loaded her in the car to go home the next day."

Raya's adoption will be finalized in April 2019.

Congratulations to Brett and Jimmy on finalizing the adoption of the youngest, Jayce Peter!

Two years ago, Jimmy and Brett became first-time dads when they adopted their eldest son Taylor. The weekend before Mother's Day last year, they received a call from Taylor's birth mom who was pregnant again, and she asked if they wanted to adopt again. They jumped at the opportunity.

Jayce was born August 31, and his dads were there at the birth. Nine months later, his adoption was finalized.

"We felt so relieved to finalize since Taylor was 9 months [by then]," said Jimmy. "We celebrated at my mom's house with immediate family and had a cake that said 'We are complete.'"

Congrats to this forever family of four!

Congratulations to Jason and Brian on finalizing the adoption of their daughter, Sydney!

On December 20, 2018, at a little over six months of age, Sydney was officially adopted by her two dads, Jason and Brian.

"We felt a combination of relief and joy once the proceedings were complete," said Jason. "Sydney has always felt like a member of our family and it means so much for it all to be 'official.'"

The Salt Lake City family celebrated at Hires Big H, a Utah classic which has accidentally become a go-to for all their family celebrations. "Christmas is pretty great, but December 20 just might be our family's new favorite holiday."

Congratulations to Jason and Micah on the birth of their daughter, Rowan!

Rowan's birth mom specifically searched for a gay couple to be the adoptive dads of her child. The birth mom's brother is transgender and she wanted to be sure that the baby would grow up in a family that would welcome any gender identity or sexual preference." And so she selected Jason and Micah. The dads were even in the room when Rowan drew her first breath and Jason even cut the umbilical cord.

"It was really humbling and inspiring to see the birth mother go through so much pain, and sacrifice so much, all because she trusted that we could offer the child a warm and loving home," said Jason."

On January 3, 2018, Rowan came into the word with her wide open. "She was ready to take everything in," continued Jason, "and to become a part of our world."

"We are honored and overjoyed to be her parents, and we'll do everything we can to make her life wonderful."

Love makes good families. Whether traditional or non-conforming to historically accepted definitions of family - we accept you. If you are ready and willing to participate in open adoption and honoring the pregnant person who has chosen you, you are welcome here. It's that simple. We also will fight for you. Choice Network does not shy away from hate. We are armed with well documented research, honest stories of our own, and the inherent truth that love makes good families.

We proudly carry the Human Rights Campaign status of Leader in Supporting and Serving LGBTQ Families!

Visit Choice Network's site

Show Comments ()
Gay Dad Life

Huge Congrats to New Dad, Andy Cohen!

Late Monday night, Emmy-winning reality TV producer and host, Andy Cohen, welcomed a son via surrogacy.

Late Monday night, Emmy-winning reality TV producer and host, Andy Cohen, welcomed a son via surrogacy.

"WOW! This is my son, Benjamin Allen Cohen. He is 9 lbs 2 ounces !! 20 inches !! Born at 6:35 pm, PT
He is named after my grandfather Ben Allen. I'm in love. And speechless. And eternally grateful to an incredible surrogate. And I'm a dad. Wow. ♥️🌈
"

Keep reading... Show less
Change the World

Governor Cuomo Proposes Ending Ban on Surrogacy in New York

New York is currently just one out of four states to completely ban the practice of compensated surrogacy

New York's Governor, Andrew Cuomo, recently proposed a law that would permit compensated surrogacy for the first time in New York state. As the New York Post reports, a ban on the practice has been in place since 1992.

"New York's antiquated laws frankly are discriminatory against all couples struggling with fertility, same sex or otherwise," the Governor told The Post in a statement. "This measure rights this wrong and creates a new and long-overdue path for them to start families and also provide important legal protections for the parents-to-be and the women who decide to become surrogates."

This move is the latest in a slew of progressive policies backed by Governor Cuomo since Democrats in the state took control of the Legislature after the 2018 elections.

The law would bring New York in line with most states in the country. Currently, the state is one of only four (including Arizona, Michigan and Nebraska) that ban all compensated surrogacy contracts outright.Andrew Cuomo

New York State Senator Brad Hoylman, who is himself a gay dad through surrogacy, has introduced several bills over the years to legalize the practice.

"For the first time," the Senator said, "I'm seeing movement."

Read the whole article here.

Change the World

How "Easy" Is It, Really, for Gay Men to Become Dads?

It's never been easier for gay men to become dads, but a recent Washington Post article, which includes interviews with four gay parents, gives voice to some of the challenges that persist.

In recent weeks, with reports like this one in eWire.News, and famous gay dads gracing the cover of Parents Magazine for the first time, a perception is growing that it's now "easy" for gay men to be dads now. To examine this idea, Washington Post recently interviewed four gay men who have become fathers at some point in the past 10 years to examine their experiences. What they found is that, yes, it's easier than ever before for gay men to become dads. But we still face many more barriers than our straight counterparts.

None of these barriers will be news to any gay man who has become a father. But it's helpful that major publications like the Washington Post are now starting to recognize and give voice to them.

The first "finding" from their conversations is that gay men need more "money in the bank" that straight people. With the exception of adoption through foster care, "the financial costs are often tantamount to buying a car or even a house outright," the author notes.

The article also notes that gay men--and fathers in general--are given less paternity leave in the United States on average than many other countries. One of the dads interviewed for the piece, who adopted his sone through foster care, said he could only afford to take two weeks of paternity leave, which was " too short," he said. His son "struggled to see me as the paternal figure — I was just the guy who went to work and came home from work later. That's a struggle for most dads whether gay or straight — but I wish I had gotten more time just to bond with him."

Gay dads also must do more "emotional heavy lifting," the author notes, noting that many attend therapy for many months before taking the plunge. "We don't come to parenting by accident," another dad interviewed in the piece said. "We come to it by way of a lot of money, and with great intentionality. That is the commonality among gay dads with children."

A final common experience to many of the gay dads interviewed in the piece were annoyances dealing with strangers. "The thing that has been the most difficult are strangers who don't understand," one of the dads said. "They see us out with our son and we don't fit into their little box of what a family looks like. I've been asked whether Jeffrey and I mixed our sperm together in a cup. And that's rude, but as our son gets older, he is being shaped by a certain narrative about who he is."

Read the whole article here.

Change the World

Breaking with Older Generations,  Most LGBTQ Millenials Say They Want Kids

According to new research by the Family Equality Council, the number of LGBTQ parents is expected to rise dramatically in the coming years

According to the LGBTQ Family Building Survey, recently released by the Family Equality Council, the majority of young LGBTQ say they are interested in becoming parent. This marks a dramatic shift when compared with the attitudes of older generations.

Among the survey's findings:

  • 63% of LGBTQ Millennials (aged 18-35) are considering expanding their families, either becoming parents for the first time, or by having more children
  • 48% of LGBTQ Millennials are actively planning to grow their families, compared to 55% of non-LGBTQ Millennials, a gap that has narrowed significantly in comparison to older generations
  • 63% of LGBTQ people planning families expect to use assisted reproductive technology, foster care, or adoption to become parents, a significant shift away from older generations of LGBTQ parents for whom the majority of children were conceived through intercourse.

Despite the expected increase in LGBTQ parents, most providers, they note, "do not typically receive training about the unique needs of the LGBTQ community; forms and computer systems are not developed with LGBTQ families in mind; insurance policies are rarely created to meet the needs of LGBTQ family building; and discrimination against LGBTQ prospective parents by agencies and providers remains widespread."

The Family Equality Council goes on to recommend that family building providers "from reproductive endocrinologists and obstetricians to neonatal social workers, family law practitioners, and child welfare workers" begin preparing now to welcome future LGBTQ parents.

Read the full report here.

Change the World

Gay Dads More 'Equitable' in Parenting Roles Than Straight Dads, Says New Study

Unmoored by gender roles, gay dads take equal parts in being "playmates, caregivers, protectors, role models, morality guides,

A new study conducted by Éric Feugé from the Université du Québec à Montréal observed 46 families, made up of 92 gay dads and their 46 children over a period of seven years.

The study, which Feugé says is the first of its kind, analyzed the roles gay dads take in raising their kids and found the way they parent is 'very equitable'.

'We learned that gay fathers' sharing of tasks is very equitable,' the researcher told the Montreal Gazette, who added there was a "high degree of engagement" by both gay dads in all types of parental roles. "What's really interesting is that they don't conform to roles of conventional fathers. They were able to redefine and propose new models of cultural notions of paternity and masculinity."

Unmoored by gender roles, gay dads take equal parts in being "playmates, caregivers, protectors, role models, morality guides,' the author said.

Read the full review of the research here.

Change the World

Don't F*ck With This F*g

After a homophobic encounter on the subway, BJ questions what the right response is, in an era of increasing vocal rightwing activists

On February 1, 2019, Frank and I went out on a date night, something we haven't done in a while. Our son was sleeping over at his grandparents for the night and we made plans with our friends to meet them for dinner downtown. We decided to save some money and take the subway into town instead of taking a taxi.

We boarded the subway and sat down opposite a couple, a man and woman. I noticed they looked at us as we boarded the train and began whispering to each other. Frank and I were talking to each other when I heard the man uttering under his breath, "F*$%ing faggots."

Keep reading... Show less
Gay Dad Life

14 Gay Dad Families Show Their Love This Valentine's Day

These pics of gay dads smooching will warm the hearts of even the biggest V-Day skeptics

You might quietly (or loudly) oppose the commercialism and celebration of Valentine's Day, but let's just take a moment and rejoice in these beautiful signs of affection, shared between 14 awesome two-dad families. Cynicism gone? Good.

Happy Valentine's Day, dads! We hope you have a lovely day with your kids, your significant other, and / or friends. Because who doesn't love love!?!

Keep reading... Show less

Fatherhood, the gay way

Get the latest from Gays With Kids delivered to your inbox!

FOLLOW OUR FAMILIES

Follow Gays With Kids

Powered by RebelMouse