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"Our Family Is Complete": Gay Men Celebrate Recent Adoptions and Births!

Join us in congratulating all of the men in our community whose families recently grew!

Wishing all of these gay dads whose families expanded in November and December a lifetime of happiness! Congrats to everyone in our community on their recent births and adoptions!

Congratulations to dads Andre and Cameron on the birth of their son Tyler! 

Andre and Cameron became first-time dads when they welcomed little Tyler on November 2, 2019 via surrogacy.

The couple had begun their surrogacy journey three years ago to the month, and they had always wanted to have a family. "We felt that the Canadian path was (and still is) the best route for us," shared Andre. "There were so many ups and downs through this journey and sometimes we felt like it was an emotional roller coaster, but now looking at Tyler's face, it was completely worth the craziness of it all!"

Holding Tyler for the first time, the dads felt complete. "We felt that our adult lives have just begun, and we have this amazing little one who will make it all worthwhile."

The family of three live in Melbourne for the majority of the year, but also have a second home in Singapore.

Congratulations to dads Courtney and David for finalizing the adoptions of Malakai and Josiah!

Malakai, 5, and Josiah, 6, were Courtney and David's first placement as foster parents. "We've fostered nine children so far, and adopting these two," said Courtney. "We've always wanted to be parents, so we started the process to be certified as foster to adopt parents."

Three years ago Courtney and David began the process to become foster parents. After Malakai and Josiah were placed with their dads, they were asked to take another foster placement and they soon realized how much they love fostering children. "We've reunified five kids to date. We currently have two foster brothers, with the intent of them going home one day," said Courtney. "But if it didn't work out we would probably adopt them too."

The dads describe Malakai and Josiah's Adoption Day as "magical." "The feeling that it was final was just amazing. We had family from several states come in to celebrate with us." They plan on taking the boys to the beach somewhere in spring, and perhaps Disney as that's what the boys have expressed real interest in. Watch this space. :)

The forever family of four live in Denver, Colorado.

Congratulations to dads Phil and Will on the birth of their daughter Evelyn!

"We are thrilled to announce that we are blessed to be the proud dads of the one-and-only, unapologetically fabulous, Evelyn Rahana McCulloch-Squires! She arrived on Saturday, November 9, 2019," shared new dad Phil via his Instagram post. "She is simply divine."

The Ottawa husbands became dads through surrogacy and they are forever grateful to their "rockstar" surrogate for making their dreams come true. "We want to thank you for the tremendous sacrifices you made to bring Evelyn into the world and for taking such good care of her. Evelyn will grow up knowing about what an awesome person you are!! You will be in our hearts forever."

They also sent a special thanks to their generous egg donor: "Your gift has enabled us to create our family! We send you love."

Will and Phil describe holding Evelyn for the first time, as the most meaningful moment of their lives.

Congratulations to dads Nic and Tim on the birth of their son Declan!

Australian dads Nic and Tim welcomed a second son, Declan, in late October with the help of an incredible surrogate, making it their second surrogacy journey as a family. "Our surrogate was originally based in LA, but moved to Arizona part way through the pregnancy," explained Tim. "It was a wonderful coincidence as our firstborn son was born in Phoenix, so both children entered the world at the same hospital."

Declan came two weeks earlier than expected. "We were in Disneyland celebrating Halloween and had planned to fly up to San Francisco before heading to Phoenix. By the time we found out our surrogate was in labour, we had missed the last flight out of LAX. Disney concierge was so nice to us, they called around to see which rental car yard was still open. We grabbed a car from there and drove overnight to be by the surrogate. Within forty-five minutes of us getting there - Declan was born!"

But their second surrogacy journey was not without its struggles. They started back in early 2017 and handling the journey from a different time zone was difficult. "We ended up flying over for work to North America and squeezing in side trips to see our surrogate and her family. We didn't get to attend an ultrasound appointment in person with our firstborn, but our lovely surrogate arranged for us to be at an ultrasound when we were coming down from Banff. It was such a thoughtful thing for her to do."

"Holding Declan felt like we had traveled an incredible distance to get to him."

This family of four live in Brisbane, Australia.

Congratulations to dads Matthew and Michael on finalizing the adoption of their daughter Maleah! 

"Our family is complete now."

On December 9, Michael and Matthew celebrated the adoption of their youngest child Maleah. Maleah joins older brother Colton who was also adopted by the couple.

"We've been married for 20 years, and about four years ago we decided that we wanted to expand our family," said Michael. "This resulted in the adoption of our son Colton in 2016, and who just turned 4 on Dec 22nd. We quickly started the adoption process for a second child after Colton's adoption was finalized."

The dads are were over the moon happy to have made Maleah's adoption official and afterwards they celebrated at their favorite Italian restaurant, Cafe Jordan in Lakewood, Colorado.

The forever family of four live in nearby Aurora.

Congratulations to dads Sean and Stephen on the birth of their daughter Iris!

Dads Stephen and Sean welcomed their second child and first daughter, Iris, on December 2. It was their second surrogacy journey to become dads.

"We had our son Sawyer via gestational carrier in 2016, and in early December Iris was born using a different gestational carrier," said Stephen. "They each share the same egg donor." The dads were both in the delivery room and Sean cut her umbilical cord.

"The nurse immediately placed her on my chest, and I felt this incredible rush of love and relief after over a year of planning, worrying and hoping for a healthy baby and uncomplicated pregnancy. We felt like our family was finally complete."

The family of four live in Charlotte, North Carolina.

Congratulations to dads Adrian and Jose on finalizing the adoption their son Theo! 

Husbands Adrian and Jose finalized the adoption of their eldest son Joshua in May, and on Thursday, December 19, the second son Theo joined the family officially.

"We got licensed in June of 2018, and welcomed Joshua in October of the same year," shared Adrian. "We had no idea what to expect, but we instantly fell in love with him! He changed our lives completely." Then in June 2019, the family welcomed Theo. "Josh was excited to become a big brother! Theo is the sweetest boy and so humble. He's always willing to help out and give."

"The court hearings for both were so emotional because both boys knew they were not going to go to anymore homes after ours. They were guaranteed a forever home where they will be loved forever." The Arizona forever family of four celebrating Theo's by hosting a barbecue.

Ever since Jose and Adrian married in November 2015, they had always talked about forming family. "We are so happy to be able to give these kids a second chance at life." Watch this space as the dads would love to grow their family by adopting a girl sometime in the future!

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Gay Dad Life

"Worth Every Blood, Sweat, and Tear": Congrats to Gay Dads on Recent Births and Adoptions!

Wishing all of these gay dads whose families expanded a lifetime of happiness! Congrats to everyone in our community on their recent births and adoptions!

Gay men go through a lot of ups and downs on the path to parenthood. It can be one of the most emotionally draining times in our lives. But as each of these families who are celebrating births and adoptions this month agree: it's worth every hardship.

Congrats to the dads whose families grew this month!

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"Under Their Spell": Congrats to all the Gay Dads Whose Families Grew in June!

Wishing all of these gay dads whose families expanded in May and June a lifetime of happiness! Congrats to everyone in our community on their recent births and adoptions!

Congratulations to dads Ben and Chris on the birth of their daughter Elizabeth!

Seattle husbands Ben and Chris welcomed daughter Elizabeth, May 18, 2019.

"We started our adoption plans last August an after getting all signed up with our agency, we were so lucky to match after only about a month and with a mom pretty close to us geographically!" shared Ben. "We've loved getting to know the birth mom and to go through this journey together, including being with her for her C-section and recovery."

Although the time in the hospital was exhausting emotionally and physically, the new dads couldn't have asked for better care or more accepting and accommodating medical staff. "When we finally met her and got to hold her, we were both in awe of how perfect she was. We're over the moon and under her spell 👨👨👧❤️"

Congratulations to dads Lance and Trevor on finalizing the adoption of their daughter Ava!

Lance and Trevan met in college in 2004 and knew right away that they were soul mates. "We always knew we wanted to be dads and started our adoption process in 2015." The Santa Monica dads welcomed little Ava into their lives in 2018.

"In our minds and hearts, she was ours from the moment we laid eyes on her," said Trevan. "Signing the final adoption papers was very emotional as it was the last step in a very long process. Seeing the smile on her face and her sweet baby giggles is the best thing about being her dad. She makes it easy and we are so lucky to be her dads."

"Our sweet Ava was worth the wait!"

Congratulations to dads Melton and Thomas on finalizing the adoption of their sons Gabriel and Braiden!

On May 17, Florida dads Melton and Thomas celebrated the adoption of their sons Gabriel and Braiden, who join sisters Summer, Kendra and Ashanti. This loving family was created through foster to adopt.

"They are siblings and have been with us since August 2017," said Thomas. "It's been a long journey we have been on with all the kids. But a sense of relief from all of the court hearings, case manger visits, guardian ad litem visits, but all worth it in the end to be able to serve as advocates for the kids."

"Most of all, adoptions provide permanency which every child deserves."

Congratulations to dads Paul and Ken on the birth of their daughter Charlotte!

A new family of four! Paul and his husband Ken welcomed daughter Charlotte in May and their dog Gigi is already a big fan.

"All we can say is that our journey to fatherhood was a true adventure which ended in the best possible way," said Philadelphia dad Paul. "We feel so blessed to be Charlotte's dads, and are inspired by all the other gay dads who paved the way before us."

"It felt so amazing to hold Charlotte for the first time - truly an awe-inspiring experience. The feelings of love are indescribable. She is a true "rockstar" and we are so proud of her."

Congratulations to dads Ned and James on finalizing the adoption of their son Aiden! 

DC dads Ned and James have been together 8 years and always knew they wanted to be fathers. Although the adoption process talk longer than they expected - about two years - Aiden arrived very suddenly, with less than a week's notice. "We were so excited to expand our family, all the short night and everything are so worth it."

The finalization was an exciting day for the family. "It was surreal, after all the waiting, to know he was official our son," said Ned. The celebrated with a nice lunch, and they're planning for a party with close friends and family soon.

Congrats to this forever family!

Congratulations to dads Ryan and Marcin on the birth of their daughter Lexi!

Baby Lexi joins older brother Liam and their dads couldn't be more thrilled! "Lexi joined our family through open adoption, but it was a pretty unique journey," shared Ryan. "We'd only been waiting three weeks when we got a call at 5pm Saturday that a little girl had been born at the hospital closest to our home and her birthmother had chosen us."

The dads weren't expecting to be matched so quickly and literally had nothing for a newborn. "Our village of friends rallied and bought us everything we needed to welcome her home." Twenty three hours after the initial call they brought her home. "The feeling of wholeness and total love was so intense the first time we held her. We knew she was meant to complete our family."

Congrats to this Houston family!

Congratulations to dads Mike and Sean on the birth of their daughter Emilia!

Mike and Sean always knew they wanted to be dads so they started their adoption journey last September. "It has been an emotional roller coaster until the time we were selected by our birth mom," said Mike. "We are so grateful to our birth mom because of her selfless love of this child made our dream come true, especially during the pride month of June."

"The first time we held our little one, it was love at first sight and we knew that it was all worth it and it was the best feeling in the world."

Congrats to this family of three from Orlando, Florida!

Congratulations to dads Adam and Taylor on the birth of their son Sawyer!

Adam and Taylor live in Lehi, Utah, and they began their fatherhood journey through the foster care system. After four years, they decided they were ready to adopt. Their adoption journey moved very quickly, and within a week they were matched. Baby Sawyer was born six weeks later!

"Having Sawyer has been the best," shared Adam. "She is so perfect and we could not be happier! Knowing that she is ours is something that is overwhelming and so exciting! The emotions that come with the journey are a roller coaster...but when she came there has been piece of mind!"

Congratulations to dads Billy and Joe on finalizing the adoption of their son Caleb!

Billy, Joe and Caleb with mothers / grandmothers and great-grandmothers.

Billy and his husband Joe live in Union Beach, New Jersey, and they recently finalized the adoption of their son Billy. "A friend of mine from high school found out she was pregnant and did not want more children and could not care for him so wanted us to adopt," said Billy.

The dads had let folks know that they were looking to adopt so it was, as they said, a "match made in heaven."

"It was a long journey but we were in close contact; we got to go to all the doctors appointments and I was the first one to hold him, skin to skin, in the hospital when he was born and haven't left his side since."

When the adoption was finalized, it felt like a weight had been lifted off their shoulders and a lot of anxiety melted away. "

When we finally got to the finalization date it was just a weight lifted off her shoulders and a whole lot of anxiety taken. "We were just so happy to know that this beautiful baby boy will be ours forever and always"

Gay Dad Life

"Over the Moon": Congrats to Gay Dads on May Births and Adoptions!

Join us in congratulating all of the gay men in our community whose families grew in the Month of May!

Wishing all of these gay dads congratulations on their exciting news this month. From pregnancy announcements, to becoming first-time dads, congrats to everyone in our community on their recent births and adoptions!

Circle Surrogacy is the proud sponsor of May's Congrats post. They were founded in 1995 on the belief that everyone should have the opportunity to be a parent. "For over 20 years we've helped LGBTQ+ couples and singles around the world fulfill their dreams of parenthood. We've helped bring more than 1,900 babies into this world... and counting!"

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Personal Essays by Gay Dads

'A Gay Man's Wife': One Couple's Co-Parenting Journey

The podcast 'A Gay Man's Wife,' explores how one woman makes her marriage to a gay man work for her — and their family.

Guest post written by Michael and Tawyne, hosts of A Gay Man's Wife

Michael: Growing up, I always knew I was different. I knew that what my family perceived as normal wasn't who I was. Only when I hit a certain maturity in my teenage years did I understand that I was gay. Still, I didn't know what that meant for me at the time. When I was 16 I met Tawyne (15) and immediately felt something that I didn't quite understand. She was wild like a tornado and captivated me. Throughout the first year of our friendship we fell in love.

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Supreme Court to Hear Major Case Concerning LGBTQ Foster Care Parents

The Supreme Court agreed to decide whether cities are allowed to exclude tax-funded adoption agencies from foster care systems if they refuse to work with gay couples.

In 2018, city officials in Philadelphia decided to exclude Catholic Social Services, which refuses to work with LGBTQ couples, from participating in its foster-care system. The agency sued, claiming religious discrimination, but the United States Court of Appeals for the Third Circuit unanimously ruled against the agency, citing the need to comply with nondiscrimination policies.

The case, Fulton v. City of Philadelphia, follows a 2018 Supreme Court decision regarding a Colorado baker who refused to make a wedding cake for a same-sex couple. In that case, the court narrowly ruled that the baker bad been discriminated against, on religious grounds, by the state's civil rights commission. It did not decide the broader issue: whether an entity can be exempt from local non-discrimination ordinances on the basis of religious freedom.

The court — whose ideological center has shifted to the right since the addition of Justice Brett Kavanaugh in fall 2018 — may choose to do so now. Advocates quickly called on the court to consider the potential impact on the more than 400,000 children currently in the foster care system:

"We already have a severe shortage of foster families willing and able to open their hearts and homes to these children," said Leslie Cooper, deputy director of the ACLU LGBT & HIV Project. "Allowing foster care agencies to exclude qualified families based on religious requirements that have nothing to do with the ability to care for a child such as their sexual orientation or faith would make it even worse. We can't afford to have loving families turned away or deterred by the risk of discrimination."

"It is unconscionable to turn away prospective foster and adoptive families because they are LGBTQ, religious minorities, or for any other reason unrelated to their capacity to love and care for children," said HRC President Alphonso David. "We reject the suggestion that taxpayer-funded child welfare services should be allowed to put discrimination over a child's best interest. This case could also have implications for religious refusals that go far beyond child welfare. The Supreme Court must make it clear that freedom of religion does not include using taxpayer funds to further marginalize vulnerable communities."

The court may choose to override a 1990 decision, Employment Division v. Smith, which created the current standard for carving out religious exemptions. In that case, the court ruled that laws that target a specific faith, or express hostility towards certain beliefs, are unconstitutional — but this standard has long been abhorred by religious conservatives, who think it doesn't offer enough protections for religions. If the court does overrule Smith, it could have far-ranging consequences. " As noted on Slate, "it would allow anyone to demand a carve-out from laws that go against their religion, unless those laws are 'narrowly tailored' to serve a 'compelling government interest.'"

The four members of the court's conservative wing — Thomas, Alito, Gorsuch, and Kavanaugh —have all signaled an openness to reconsider Smith. The ruling's fate, then, likely rests in the hands of the court's new swing vote, Chief Justice Roberts.

For more, read the full article on Slate.

Gay Dad Life

Dads Tell Us Their 'Gayest Moment Ever' as Parents

We may be dads — but we're still gay, dammit! And these "gayest moments ever," sent to us from our Instagram community, prove it.

Did your child know all the lyrics to Madonna songs by age 3? Do your kids critique all the red carpet lewks from the Tony Awards? Do you often have baby food, diapers, sparkling white wine, gourmet appetizer, and fresh cut flowers in your shopping cart — all in one trip? If you answered 'yes' to any of the above, you just might be... a gay dad.

We asked the dads in our Instagram community to share their gayest moments as a dad, ever, and their responses were just as hilarious as they were relatable.

Here's a great way to start the week...

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What's it Like to Be a Child of the 'Gayby Boom'?

Tosca Langbert, who grew up with two dads, writes a piece for the Harvard Business Review about what it's like being among the first children of the "Gayby Boom" to come of age.

We've previously written about the pressure on LGBTQ parents to appear perfect, given that so many in the United States still feel out families shouldn't exist in the first place. And we know this pressure trickles down to our kids. But In an article for the Harvard Business Review titled 'The Gayby Boom Is Here to Stay," author Tosca Langbert eloquently writes, from her perspective, about the experience of beingone of the first children to come of age during an era when LGBTQ parenthood is far more commonplace. She and her two siblings, she notes, "were raised in a family that was an impossibility only decades ago."

In the article, Langbert said she knew from a young age that her family was different from those of most of her peers, who had one a father and a mother. But otherwise, she writes, she didn't feel like her family differed much. "Like any other parents, Dad sat in the carpool lane after school and taught us how to ride our bikes," she writes, "while Papa took us to the movies on the weekends and separated the whites from the colors."

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