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"Our Family Is Complete": Gay Men Celebrate Recent Adoptions and Births!

Join us in congratulating all of the men in our community whose families recently grew!

Wishing all of these gay dads whose families expanded in November and December a lifetime of happiness! Congrats to everyone in our community on their recent births and adoptions!

Congratulations to dads Andre and Cameron on the birth of their son Tyler! 

Andre and Cameron became first-time dads when they welcomed little Tyler on November 2, 2019 via surrogacy.

The couple had begun their surrogacy journey three years ago to the month, and they had always wanted to have a family. "We felt that the Canadian path was (and still is) the best route for us," shared Andre. "There were so many ups and downs through this journey and sometimes we felt like it was an emotional roller coaster, but now looking at Tyler's face, it was completely worth the craziness of it all!"

Holding Tyler for the first time, the dads felt complete. "We felt that our adult lives have just begun, and we have this amazing little one who will make it all worthwhile."

The family of three live in Melbourne for the majority of the year, but also have a second home in Singapore.

Congratulations to dads Courtney and David for finalizing the adoptions of Malakai and Josiah!

Malakai, 5, and Josiah, 6, were Courtney and David's first placement as foster parents. "We've fostered nine children so far, and adopting these two," said Courtney. "We've always wanted to be parents, so we started the process to be certified as foster to adopt parents."

Three years ago Courtney and David began the process to become foster parents. After Malakai and Josiah were placed with their dads, they were asked to take another foster placement and they soon realized how much they love fostering children. "We've reunified five kids to date. We currently have two foster brothers, with the intent of them going home one day," said Courtney. "But if it didn't work out we would probably adopt them too."

The dads describe Malakai and Josiah's Adoption Day as "magical." "The feeling that it was final was just amazing. We had family from several states come in to celebrate with us." They plan on taking the boys to the beach somewhere in spring, and perhaps Disney as that's what the boys have expressed real interest in. Watch this space. :)

The forever family of four live in Denver, Colorado.

Congratulations to dads Phil and Will on the birth of their daughter Evelyn!

"We are thrilled to announce that we are blessed to be the proud dads of the one-and-only, unapologetically fabulous, Evelyn Rahana McCulloch-Squires! She arrived on Saturday, November 9, 2019," shared new dad Phil via his Instagram post. "She is simply divine."

The Ottawa husbands became dads through surrogacy and they are forever grateful to their "rockstar" surrogate for making their dreams come true. "We want to thank you for the tremendous sacrifices you made to bring Evelyn into the world and for taking such good care of her. Evelyn will grow up knowing about what an awesome person you are!! You will be in our hearts forever."

They also sent a special thanks to their generous egg donor: "Your gift has enabled us to create our family! We send you love."

Will and Phil describe holding Evelyn for the first time, as the most meaningful moment of their lives.

Congratulations to dads Nic and Tim on the birth of their son Declan!

Australian dads Nic and Tim welcomed a second son, Declan, in late October with the help of an incredible surrogate, making it their second surrogacy journey as a family. "Our surrogate was originally based in LA, but moved to Arizona part way through the pregnancy," explained Tim. "It was a wonderful coincidence as our firstborn son was born in Phoenix, so both children entered the world at the same hospital."

Declan came two weeks earlier than expected. "We were in Disneyland celebrating Halloween and had planned to fly up to San Francisco before heading to Phoenix. By the time we found out our surrogate was in labour, we had missed the last flight out of LAX. Disney concierge was so nice to us, they called around to see which rental car yard was still open. We grabbed a car from there and drove overnight to be by the surrogate. Within forty-five minutes of us getting there - Declan was born!"

But their second surrogacy journey was not without its struggles. They started back in early 2017 and handling the journey from a different time zone was difficult. "We ended up flying over for work to North America and squeezing in side trips to see our surrogate and her family. We didn't get to attend an ultrasound appointment in person with our firstborn, but our lovely surrogate arranged for us to be at an ultrasound when we were coming down from Banff. It was such a thoughtful thing for her to do."

"Holding Declan felt like we had traveled an incredible distance to get to him."

This family of four live in Brisbane, Australia.

Congratulations to dads Matthew and Michael on finalizing the adoption of their daughter Maleah! 

"Our family is complete now."

On December 9, Michael and Matthew celebrated the adoption of their youngest child Maleah. Maleah joins older brother Colton who was also adopted by the couple.

"We've been married for 20 years, and about four years ago we decided that we wanted to expand our family," said Michael. "This resulted in the adoption of our son Colton in 2016, and who just turned 4 on Dec 22nd. We quickly started the adoption process for a second child after Colton's adoption was finalized."

The dads are were over the moon happy to have made Maleah's adoption official and afterwards they celebrated at their favorite Italian restaurant, Cafe Jordan in Lakewood, Colorado.

The forever family of four live in nearby Aurora.

Congratulations to dads Sean and Stephen on the birth of their daughter Iris!

Dads Stephen and Sean welcomed their second child and first daughter, Iris, on December 2. It was their second surrogacy journey to become dads.

"We had our son Sawyer via gestational carrier in 2016, and in early December Iris was born using a different gestational carrier," said Stephen. "They each share the same egg donor." The dads were both in the delivery room and Sean cut her umbilical cord.

"The nurse immediately placed her on my chest, and I felt this incredible rush of love and relief after over a year of planning, worrying and hoping for a healthy baby and uncomplicated pregnancy. We felt like our family was finally complete."

The family of four live in Charlotte, North Carolina.

Congratulations to dads Adrian and Jose on finalizing the adoption their son Theo! 

Husbands Adrian and Jose finalized the adoption of their eldest son Joshua in May, and on Thursday, December 19, the second son Theo joined the family officially.

"We got licensed in June of 2018, and welcomed Joshua in October of the same year," shared Adrian. "We had no idea what to expect, but we instantly fell in love with him! He changed our lives completely." Then in June 2019, the family welcomed Theo. "Josh was excited to become a big brother! Theo is the sweetest boy and so humble. He's always willing to help out and give."

"The court hearings for both were so emotional because both boys knew they were not going to go to anymore homes after ours. They were guaranteed a forever home where they will be loved forever." The Arizona forever family of four celebrating Theo's by hosting a barbecue.

Ever since Jose and Adrian married in November 2015, they had always talked about forming family. "We are so happy to be able to give these kids a second chance at life." Watch this space as the dads would love to grow their family by adopting a girl sometime in the future!

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"Worth Every Blood, Sweat, and Tear": Congrats to Gay Dads on Recent Births and Adoptions!

Wishing all of these gay dads whose families expanded a lifetime of happiness! Congrats to everyone in our community on their recent births and adoptions!

Gay men go through a lot of ups and downs on the path to parenthood. It can be one of the most emotionally draining times in our lives. But as each of these families who are celebrating births and adoptions this month agree: it's worth every hardship.

Congrats to the dads whose families grew this month!

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"We're Dads, the Greatest Thing We've Ever Been": Congrats to Gay Men Whose Families Recently Grew!

Wishing all of these gay dads whose families expanded a lifetime of happiness! Congrats to everyone in our community on their recent births and adoptions!

Gay men go through a lot of ups and downs on the path to parenthood. It can be one of the most emotionally draining times in our lives. But as each of these families who are celebrating births and adoptions this month agree: it's worth every hardship.

Congrats to the dads whose families grew this month!

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"Under Their Spell": Congrats to all the Gay Dads Whose Families Grew in June!

Wishing all of these gay dads whose families expanded in May and June a lifetime of happiness! Congrats to everyone in our community on their recent births and adoptions!

Congratulations to dads Ben and Chris on the birth of their daughter Elizabeth!

Seattle husbands Ben and Chris welcomed daughter Elizabeth, May 18, 2019.

"We started our adoption plans last August an after getting all signed up with our agency, we were so lucky to match after only about a month and with a mom pretty close to us geographically!" shared Ben. "We've loved getting to know the birth mom and to go through this journey together, including being with her for her C-section and recovery."

Although the time in the hospital was exhausting emotionally and physically, the new dads couldn't have asked for better care or more accepting and accommodating medical staff. "When we finally met her and got to hold her, we were both in awe of how perfect she was. We're over the moon and under her spell 👨👨👧❤️"

Congratulations to dads Lance and Trevor on finalizing the adoption of their daughter Ava!

Lance and Trevan met in college in 2004 and knew right away that they were soul mates. "We always knew we wanted to be dads and started our adoption process in 2015." The Santa Monica dads welcomed little Ava into their lives in 2018.

"In our minds and hearts, she was ours from the moment we laid eyes on her," said Trevan. "Signing the final adoption papers was very emotional as it was the last step in a very long process. Seeing the smile on her face and her sweet baby giggles is the best thing about being her dad. She makes it easy and we are so lucky to be her dads."

"Our sweet Ava was worth the wait!"

Congratulations to dads Melton and Thomas on finalizing the adoption of their sons Gabriel and Braiden!

On May 17, Florida dads Melton and Thomas celebrated the adoption of their sons Gabriel and Braiden, who join sisters Summer, Kendra and Ashanti. This loving family was created through foster to adopt.

"They are siblings and have been with us since August 2017," said Thomas. "It's been a long journey we have been on with all the kids. But a sense of relief from all of the court hearings, case manger visits, guardian ad litem visits, but all worth it in the end to be able to serve as advocates for the kids."

"Most of all, adoptions provide permanency which every child deserves."

Congratulations to dads Paul and Ken on the birth of their daughter Charlotte!

A new family of four! Paul and his husband Ken welcomed daughter Charlotte in May and their dog Gigi is already a big fan.

"All we can say is that our journey to fatherhood was a true adventure which ended in the best possible way," said Philadelphia dad Paul. "We feel so blessed to be Charlotte's dads, and are inspired by all the other gay dads who paved the way before us."

"It felt so amazing to hold Charlotte for the first time - truly an awe-inspiring experience. The feelings of love are indescribable. She is a true "rockstar" and we are so proud of her."

Congratulations to dads Ned and James on finalizing the adoption of their son Aiden! 

DC dads Ned and James have been together 8 years and always knew they wanted to be fathers. Although the adoption process talk longer than they expected - about two years - Aiden arrived very suddenly, with less than a week's notice. "We were so excited to expand our family, all the short night and everything are so worth it."

The finalization was an exciting day for the family. "It was surreal, after all the waiting, to know he was official our son," said Ned. The celebrated with a nice lunch, and they're planning for a party with close friends and family soon.

Congrats to this forever family!

Congratulations to dads Ryan and Marcin on the birth of their daughter Lexi!

Baby Lexi joins older brother Liam and their dads couldn't be more thrilled! "Lexi joined our family through open adoption, but it was a pretty unique journey," shared Ryan. "We'd only been waiting three weeks when we got a call at 5pm Saturday that a little girl had been born at the hospital closest to our home and her birthmother had chosen us."

The dads weren't expecting to be matched so quickly and literally had nothing for a newborn. "Our village of friends rallied and bought us everything we needed to welcome her home." Twenty three hours after the initial call they brought her home. "The feeling of wholeness and total love was so intense the first time we held her. We knew she was meant to complete our family."

Congrats to this Houston family!

Congratulations to dads Mike and Sean on the birth of their daughter Emilia!

Mike and Sean always knew they wanted to be dads so they started their adoption journey last September. "It has been an emotional roller coaster until the time we were selected by our birth mom," said Mike. "We are so grateful to our birth mom because of her selfless love of this child made our dream come true, especially during the pride month of June."

"The first time we held our little one, it was love at first sight and we knew that it was all worth it and it was the best feeling in the world."

Congrats to this family of three from Orlando, Florida!

Congratulations to dads Adam and Taylor on the birth of their son Sawyer!

Adam and Taylor live in Lehi, Utah, and they began their fatherhood journey through the foster care system. After four years, they decided they were ready to adopt. Their adoption journey moved very quickly, and within a week they were matched. Baby Sawyer was born six weeks later!

"Having Sawyer has been the best," shared Adam. "She is so perfect and we could not be happier! Knowing that she is ours is something that is overwhelming and so exciting! The emotions that come with the journey are a roller coaster...but when she came there has been piece of mind!"

Congratulations to dads Billy and Joe on finalizing the adoption of their son Caleb!

Billy, Joe and Caleb with mothers / grandmothers and great-grandmothers.

Billy and his husband Joe live in Union Beach, New Jersey, and they recently finalized the adoption of their son Billy. "A friend of mine from high school found out she was pregnant and did not want more children and could not care for him so wanted us to adopt," said Billy.

The dads had let folks know that they were looking to adopt so it was, as they said, a "match made in heaven."

"It was a long journey but we were in close contact; we got to go to all the doctors appointments and I was the first one to hold him, skin to skin, in the hospital when he was born and haven't left his side since."

When the adoption was finalized, it felt like a weight had been lifted off their shoulders and a lot of anxiety melted away. "

When we finally got to the finalization date it was just a weight lifted off her shoulders and a whole lot of anxiety taken. "We were just so happy to know that this beautiful baby boy will be ours forever and always"

Surrogacy for Gay Men

Dads Talk About Surrogacy Process in New Video for Northwest Surrogacy Center

The Northwest Surrogacy Center interviewed some of their gay dad clients for a video to celebrate their 25th anniversary of creating families through surrogacy!

Last year, Northwest Surrogacy Center celebrated 25 years of helping parents realize their dreams. And they celebrated in style by inviting the families they've worked with over the past two and a half decades to join them!

At the party, they took the opportunity to film queer dads and dads-to-be, asking them a couple of questions: how did it feel holding your baby for the first time, and tell us about your relationship with your surrogate.

Watch the video below and get ready for the water works!

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Campaign to Legalize Surrogacy in New York Heats Up with Competing Bills

Two competing bills — one backed by Governor Andrew Cuomo and another by Senator Liz Krueger with stricter provisions — are aiming to legalize surrogacy in New York.

Governor Andrew Cuomo of New York is once again attempting to legalize commercial surrogacy in the state, which is still just one of three states in the country to forbid the practice.

"This antiquated law is repugnant to our values and we must repeal it once and for all and enact the nation's strongest protections for surrogates and parents choosing to take part in the surrogacy process," Governor Cuomo said in a statement in announcing a broader effort called Love Makes a Family. "This year we must pass gestational surrogacy and expedite the second parent adoption process to complete marriage and family equality."

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Change the World

Your Marriage Should Be Gayer, Says the New York Times

In an op-ed for the New York Times, Stephanie Coontz, author of "Marriage: a History," lists the many insights LGBTQ marriages can offer straight ones.

According to a fascinating op-ed in the New York Times this week by Stephanie Coontz, author of "Marriage: a History," turns out the people convinced marriage equality — legal across the United States for five years now — would usher in the complete breakdown of civil society should be more worried about the health of their own marriages.

In the article, Coontz details the results of research that followed 756 "midlife" straight marriages, and 378 gay marriages, and found same-sex couples reporting the lowest levels of physiological distress — with male gay couples reporting the lowest. The reason for this, the author said, is pretty simple — misogyny. The idea that men and women should strive for parity in a relationship is still a fairly new idea, Coontz said, and traditional gender roles are still pervasive. Gay couples, meanwhile, are free from such presumptions, which often results in happier, healthier relationships.

The most interesting findings in the research relate to parenting. While gender norms tend to be even more emphasized among straight people once they have children, with the bulk of the childrearing falling to mothers, same-sex couples — once again freed from the stereotypes of the male/female divide — parent more equitably. As the author notes, "A 2015 survey found that almost half of dual-earner, same-sex couples shared laundry duties, compared with just under a third of different-sex couples. And a whopping 74 percent of same-sex couples shared routine child care, compared with only 38 percent of straight couples."

When it comes to time spent with children, men in straight marriages spent the least amount of time and the lowest proportion of "nonwork" time, with their children — while men in same-sex marriages spent just as much time with their children as women in a straight relationship. "The result?" Coontz writes, "Children living with same-sex parents experienced, on average, three and a half hours of parenting time per day, compared with two and a half for children living with a heterosexual couple."

Straight fathers devote the least amount of time — about 55 minutes a day — on their children, which includes things like physical needs, reading, playing, and homework. Gay mothers spent an additional 18 minutes each and straight mothers an additional 23 minutes. Gay fathers spent the most time with their children, the study found, an average of an additional 28 minutes a day.

Taken together, straight couples spend an average of 2 hours and 14 minutes on their children. Lesbian moms spend an additional 13 minutes, while gay men spend 33 more minutes than straight couples.

One factor, the author notes, that can help explain this difference is this: gay parents rarely end up with an unintended or unwanted child, whereas a full 45% percent of pregnancies in straight relationships in 2011 (the last year data is available) were unintended, and 18% were unwanted.

But right. Gay people shouldn't be parents.

Gay Dad Photo Essays

How Single Dads Are Celebrating Valentine's Day This Year

Valentine's Day is not just for lovers! We caught up with 8 single gay dads to see how they plan to celebrate Valentine's Day with this year.

Valentine's Day is not just for lovers; it's also a day to celebrate our loved ones. And that's exactly what these single dads are doing.

Within our community, GWK has a large group of admirable, active, and awesome (!) single dads and we want to honor them! On Valentine's Day, they and their kids celebrate their family unit in the sweetest possible ways. We asked the dads to share these moments with us, and, where possible, one of the most heartwarming things they've experienced with their kids on Valentine's Day to date.

Hear their stories below.

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