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Gay Dads More 'Equitable' in Parenting Roles Than Straight Dads, Says New Study

Unmoored by gender roles, gay dads take equal parts in being "playmates, caregivers, protectors, role models, morality guides,

A new study conducted by Éric Feugé from the Université du Québec à Montréal observed 46 families, made up of 92 gay dads and their 46 children over a period of seven years.

The study, which Feugé says is the first of its kind, analyzed the roles gay dads take in raising their kids and found the way they parent is 'very equitable'.

'We learned that gay fathers' sharing of tasks is very equitable,' the researcher told the Montreal Gazette, who added there was a "high degree of engagement" by both gay dads in all types of parental roles. "What's really interesting is that they don't conform to roles of conventional fathers. They were able to redefine and propose new models of cultural notions of paternity and masculinity."

Unmoored by gender roles, gay dads take equal parts in being "playmates, caregivers, protectors, role models, morality guides,' the author said.

Read the full review of the research here.

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14 Gay Dad Families Show Their Love This Valentine's Day

These pics of gay dads smooching will warm the hearts of even the biggest V-Day skeptics

You might quietly (or loudly) oppose the commercialism and celebration of Valentine's Day, but let's just take a moment and rejoice in these beautiful signs of affection, shared between 14 awesome two-dad families. Cynicism gone? Good.

Happy Valentine's Day, dads! We hope you have a lovely day with your kids, your significant other, and / or friends. Because who doesn't love love!?!

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How Do Gay Dads Celebrate Black History Month?

We asked 11 gay dads to tell us what Black History Month means to them and how they celebrate in their households.

February is Black History Month in America. And although celebrating Black history, culture and people shouldn't be confined to just one month, it does ensure an opportunity to commemorate the heroic figures of Black men and women, and also increase visibility of Black life and history; two of Carter G. Woodson's goals when he created the concept in 1926.

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In an Emotional Wedding Speech, Man Vows to Be "a Dad and Friend" to Husband's Daughter

There wasn't a clear eye in the room after Tommy Espinoza's beautiful vow to the daughter of his fiancé, Juan Garcia.

Juan Jaimes Garcia Espinoza, whose inspiring story we've previous brought to you, recently got married to his now husband Tommy Espinoza. Juan first became a dad via a previous marriage to a woman, but has been raising his daughter, Isabelle, with Tommy since the couple met in 2015.

"As you have been there for me, I vow to always be there for you," Tommy said to Juan during their vows. "To be there as a supporting husband, a best friend, and a co-parent to the amazing young girl you brought into my life."

Then, a clearly emotional Tommy motioned for Isabelle to join the husbands at the front of the ceremony.

"Isabelle, I promise to support you, to love you, to fight for you, to guide you every day," he said. "I'm here. I promise to be here for you in any way you need as a dad, and your friend. I am so thankful and blessed to have you in my life as the daughter I always wanted. You're beautiful, you're smart, creative, and full of energy. There's nothing I'd ever change about you. I promise to love you just as much as daddy. And I promise to always take care of you both, as long as you'll have me."

"It was a complete surprise to me," Juan told us of Tommy's beautiful speech. "I didn't expect it at all!"

Grab the tissues and watch the beautiful speech here:


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Huge Congrats to New Dad, Andy Cohen!

Late Monday night, Emmy-winning reality TV producer and host, Andy Cohen, welcomed a son via surrogacy.

Late Monday night, Emmy-winning reality TV producer and host, Andy Cohen, welcomed a son via surrogacy.

"WOW! This is my son, Benjamin Allen Cohen. He is 9 lbs 2 ounces !! 20 inches !! Born at 6:35 pm, PT
He is named after my grandfather Ben Allen. I'm in love. And speechless. And eternally grateful to an incredible surrogate. And I'm a dad. Wow. ♥️🌈
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Governor Cuomo Proposes Ending Ban on Surrogacy in New York

New York is currently just one out of four states to completely ban the practice of compensated surrogacy

New York's Governor, Andrew Cuomo, recently proposed a law that would permit compensated surrogacy for the first time in New York state. As the New York Post reports, a ban on the practice has been in place since 1992.

"New York's antiquated laws frankly are discriminatory against all couples struggling with fertility, same sex or otherwise," the Governor told The Post in a statement. "This measure rights this wrong and creates a new and long-overdue path for them to start families and also provide important legal protections for the parents-to-be and the women who decide to become surrogates."

This move is the latest in a slew of progressive policies backed by Governor Cuomo since Democrats in the state took control of the Legislature after the 2018 elections.

The law would bring New York in line with most states in the country. Currently, the state is one of only four (including Arizona, Michigan and Nebraska) that ban all compensated surrogacy contracts outright.Andrew Cuomo

New York State Senator Brad Hoylman, who is himself a gay dad through surrogacy, has introduced several bills over the years to legalize the practice.

"For the first time," the Senator said, "I'm seeing movement."

Read the whole article here.

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Cheyenne Jackson Says He's Loving that "Married With Kids" Life on Larry King

The 'American Horror Story' star sat down with Larry King to talk about his success, his siblings, and family life.

During an interview with Larry King, the "American Horror Story" actor Cheyenne Jackson spoke about what it's like being a married man with twins. "It is the best," he said.

He also mentioned that he and his husband, Jason Landau, have slightly different parenting approaches. "We definitely take different roles, naturally," he said. "I am a little bit more of a worrier. I'm a little bit more of, I guess, the mom, in terms of I'm very, very emotional and very tactile – the kids are just always on me. But I'm also more of a disciplinarian than Jason. He plays really crazy and wild with them and I'm always worried about them banging their heads against the wall. I like a really super tight schedule, and he's like, 'Let's just go with it, they're fine.'"

"A typical marriage," said King, who then asked if he and Landau had hoped to have twins.

"Yeah, well they encourage you to put two in just in the hopes that one will be a successful pregnancy. And both did."

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New Dads Tom Daley and Dustin Lance Black Vow to Keep Images of Son Off of Social Media

Tom Daley and Dustin Lance Black say they plan to keep their son off of social media until he has a say in the matter.

If you follow Tom Daley and Dustin Lance Black on Instagram, you'll know they're are the latest to join the ranks of famous gay dads when their son, Robbie Ray, was born via surrogacy in June 2018. But what you haven't seen is any evidence of the baby boy, beyond a picture of a bassinet here, or a stroller pic there. The reason? The plan to keep their son off of their (widely followed) social media accounts.

The couple explained their decision in an interview on BBC Radio several months back. "We have not shown his face on any social media platform and we plan to continue to do that," said Daley. "Mainly because there are so many members of our family yet to meet him. We want people to meet him in person first before they see him on social media."

Lance followed up with a joke: "He's so cute, he's going to make every other parent in the world feel terrible," he said. "He's so adorable, like why would we do that?"

So far, the dads have stayed very true to their vow. So when might their adoring public be able to catch a glimpse of the famous dads' son? When "he has proper representation," Lance joked again.

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