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Broadway Husbands: Gain Knowledge, Give "Samples," and More in Latest Surrogacy Journey Vlog

Broadway husbands Stephen and Bret tell us about their 'Team Day' with Reproductive Medicine Associates of Connecticut: an informational day for all Intended Parents beginning their surrogacy journey.

Broadway husbands Stephen and Bret recently attended Reproductive Medicine Associates of Connecticut's (RMACT) informative 'Team Day.' It was an opportunity to meet all the professionals who would be involved in their surrogacy journey, from the nurse, to the social worker, to the geneticist, to Dr. Mark Leondires himself.

In this vlog chapter, Stephen and Bret will discuss their experience and interactions, what they learned from the day, and the process of giving their, ahem, "samples."


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In this video you'll hear Bret and Stephen discuss:

First steps: taking blood for various tests (0:48)

Giving their semen samples: their experience and what happens to their samples (1:00)

Meeting with the geneticist to discuss familial genetic history (1:41)

Meeting with the social worker to talk about their future child (2:09)

Meeting with the nurse to chat about their expectations and next steps (2:43)

Meeting the Insurance and Billing Advocate to talk through how they're going to pay for the surrogacy journey (3:30)

Overall thoughts on their 'Team Day' experience (3:51)

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Gay Parents To Be® is the leading international fertility program serving the LGBTQ community. Our full-suite of fertility services was founded by our Medical Director, Dr. Mark Leondires, a gay dad through surrogacy and egg donation, and leading advocate for the LGBTQ family-building community. Gay Parents To Be® is a single-source destination with a trusted partner network, including surrogacy and egg donation agencies and reproductive attorneys. We are the only East Coast IVF Clinic designated as a fully-inclusive LGBTQ Healthcare Leader by the Human Rights Campaign (HRC) .

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