Gay Dad Life

Best Diaper Bags for Dapper Dads

We asked our readers - and one very stylish mom with two sons under four - for their favorite diaper bags for new dads.


For dads-to-be, buying a diaper bag can feel like a monumental purchase: one of the first signs of impending fatherhood. Our readers told us that dads are looking for a diaper bags that's easy to carry but easy enough on the eyes too. Many of you said you're looking to carry just the basics in your diaper bag. A few dads told us they didn't want anything that looked too much like a purse. Gays With Kids reader John told us he fit everything he needed in a simple camera case.

Kevin recommends the backpacks from Dad Gear ($99). Made in America, we like the quick-access compartment for wipes. Apparently Ashton Kutcher used a Dad Gear diaper bag too.

We'd never heard of the Mission Critical brand before, so thanks for the intro Keith. Their backpack ($150) is on the larger side so it could the best diaper bag for families with twins or for larger trips.

Now for something completely different! Jordan and his husband use this leather tote style diaper bag from Matt and Nat ($195) . "It looks like a nice, proper bag, that you can take with you even when you're dressed up. . .Has enough room for everything you need, but isn't so large that it gets filled with junk," Jordan explained.

William gave a shout-out to his trim Mummy Backpack in basic black ($68.99). It locks bottles upright in a secure position - big plus as new dads on the go will quickly discover. The name "mummy" is frustrating - why are they ignoring half their market?

This is "the best doesn't-really-look-like-a-diaper-bag diaper bag around" according to Kevin. The Shoulder Messenger Bag from Diaper Dudes is $54.95 on Amazon.

 

Our stylish mom friend? As many of you suggested, she uses a backpack that isn't really made to be a diaper bag at all. This is the Kanken from Swedish brand Fjallraven ($80). It comes in a rainbow of color choices and multiple sizes too.

We also heard that dads look to Herschel, Eastpak and Brooklyn-based brand State for diaper bags and diaper backpacks.

One finale note from you guys about diaper bags that really made our day:  Joe wanted to make sure his daughters felt comfortable. He told us: "We knew our adopted daughters loved 'My Little Pony' so went with the large back pack." Sometimes dads can be magic!

Thanks for the diaper bag suggestions and stories over on our Facebook page. Keep them coming!

 

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