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An Adoption Agency's Top Picks for Children's Books

Books are a great way for children to learn new things. The following list is made up of children’s books that Open Arms Adoption recommends to help kids explore the LGBT community and explain how some families are different, but also similar, to their own.


Daddy, Papa, and Me

Rhythmic text and illustrations with universal appeal show a toddler spending the day with his daddies. From hide-and-seek to dress-up, then bath time and a kiss goodnight, there's no limit to what a loving family can do together. Share the loving bond between same-sex parents and their children.

This children’s book is simple with a loaded message. The family consists of two dads and a young toddler. They do all the things any pair of parents would do. One of the daddies sews and the other teaches the toddler how to throw. By the end of the day, two worn out parents are sitting back to back against a tree while this toddler is still going strong.


And Tango Makes Three

This is the heartwarming true story of two penguins that were “a little bit different” from the other male penguins. At the zoo, they noticed they noticed each other instead of other female penguins.

At the penguin house at the Central Park Zoo, two penguins named Roy and Silo became inseparable. But, their desire for a family was the same. And with the help of a kind zookeeper, Roy and Silo got the chance to welcome a baby penguin of their very own. The zookeeper gave them a motherless egg to take care of. Thus, the penguin chick named Tango hatched from a fertilized egg and was given to the pining, bewildered pair. Tango became to be known as "the only penguin in the Central Park Zoo with two daddies.


King and King and Family

The queen made up her mind that it was time for the prince to marry and become king before the end of the summer. Many princesses came to visit but no one was quite right until another sweet prince came along.

Join newlyweds King Lee and King Bertie on their journey into the noisy jungle while wild animal families greet the kings. The travelers happily tramp through the wilderness and paddle down a river, observing the wildlife as they go. The kings soon have a strange feeling that something is following them. After returning home, they discover another stowaway in their suitcase–this time it's a young girl from the jungle that they joyfully adopt and everyone lives happily ever after.

The mixed-media collage illustrations are colorful with lots to look at on each page. Bertie's travel diary is reproduced on the book's centerfold, hinting at the surprise ending.


Some people have two Dads: Gay Families Some people have two Dads

Our society is changing. An increasing number of gay couples are having children through adoption and surrogacy. At some point, you should explain to your child about same-gender parents. This book can be used as an educational tool to help people understand that families come in a variety of different combinations.

Through the story of Daisy's birthday, readers learn about how her fathers met, fell in love and started their family.


A Tale of Two Daddies

A Tale of Two Daddies is a story told through a playground conversation between two children. The boy says he heard that the girl has two dads. The girl says that he is right. She has Daddy and Poppa. Practical questions follow true to a child’s curiosity.

In simple rhyming text, a boy asks her which of her dads helps her do certain things, from building a tree house to helping with homework. Some things her Poppa does. Some things her Daddy does. Some things both dads do, and sometimes neither one does it because she does it on her own. The bright, humorous, cartoon-like pictures show us the little boy and the little girl talking, shifting to pictures of her doing activities with her dads.

A Tale of Two Daddies is intended for 4 to 8 year-olds.  This book introduces a type of family increasingly visible in our society. Neither favoring nor condemning, this book reflects a child’s practical and innocent look at the adults who nurture and love her.


And here's four more books we've not shared before!

Who's in a Family?

Family is important, but who's in a family? Why, the people who love you the most! This equal opportunity, open-minded picture book has no preconceptions about what makes a family a family. There's even equal time given to some of children's favorite animal families. With warm and inviting jewel-tone illustrations, this is a great book for that long talk with a little person on your lap.

This book catalogues multicultural, modern family units, including those with single parents, lesbian and gay parents, mixed-race couples, grandparents and divorced parents. This is a great story to explore the dynamics of different kinds of families.


Pearl Power & The Girl with Two Dads

This story carefully and humorously addresses the subject of same-sex parents for children ages 4-7. In this story, a new girl named Matilda comes to Pear Power’s school and has two dads. Pearl thinks she is so cool and different from everyone else because of this, but quickly learns that Matilda’s family is just the same as everyone else’s! This lighthearted book easily shows how same-sex parents are “no big deal" and nothing to make a fuss over.


Daddy's Home (One Love Stories)

This is a story about a little girl who lives with her two fathers. One day she becomes very sad that her Daddy is away from home and so her Papa consoles her and explains the important work her Daddy is doing. This book shows how same-sex parents take on different roles in the house just like other families do.


Daddy's Wedding

Nick is a normal 10-year-old boy, but when Daddy and Daddy's roommate, Frank, decide to get married, Nick gets to do something extra special: play best man! Nick doesn’t think anything of this event because he believes his father should be able to marry whomever he loves


Open Arms Adoption is an agency serving individuals, children and seniors through all phases of the life cycle. With a commitment to supporting our community and helping to create safe, loving and permanent homes, we are proud to have facilitated over one thousand adoptions during our rich history. Every day we are grateful for our agency’s legacy in the community and every day we seek to build on that positive legacy by facilitating healthy, child-centered adoptions. 

Open Arms Adoption is also an HRC recognized agency, a leader in supporting and serving LGBT youth and families.


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Last week, the Trump administration announced plans to allow adoption and foster care agencies to discriminate against prospective LGBTQ parents — but he may face a legal fight from (former) hometown. In a tweet, Governor Andrew Cuomo of New York said the proposed move "isn't just discriminatory and repugnant to our values,— it's also heartless and dumb as it would deny countless children a loving family and a safe place to call home." If the proposal moves forward, he continued. "we'll take legal action to stop it.

Governor Cuomo's office followed up the tweet with a lengthier statement posted to their website:

Once again the Trump administration is attacking the hard-earned rights and protections of the LGBTQ community, this time proposing a new measure that would give foster care and adoption agencies license to discriminate based on sexual orientation or gender identity.

Trump's proposal isn't just discriminatory and repugnant to our values — it's also heartless and dumb as it would deny countless children a loving family and a safe place to call home. If he moves forward with this rule, we'll take legal action to stop it.

No matter what happens in Washington, New York State is and will continue to be a beacon of equality in this country. Our Human Rights Law and adoption regulations expressly prohibit discrimination against the LGBTQ community, including when it comes to adoption. I encourage any LGBTQ New Yorker who feels they are a victim of this discrimination to contact the State Division of Human Rights for assistance.

Our message to the Trump administration is simple: there is no place for hate in New York or in our nation, and we will not allow this noxious proposal to stop LGBTQ New Yorkers from becoming parents or providing care to children in need.

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In its latest move against the LGBTQ community, the Trump administration has proposed a rule that will give adoption and foster care agencies license to discriminate on the basis of religion

On Friday, the Department of Health and Human Services proposed a new rule to reverse an Obama-era policy prohibiting discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation and gender identity — allowing foster and adoption agencies to legally refuse to work with prospective adoptive and foster parents who identify as LGBTQ on the grounds of religious belief.

Denise Brogan-Kator, speaking to the New York Times, said the proposal would have an "enormous" impact on the LGBTQ community, noting that all organizations that get funding from the department will be "free to discriminate."

The White House, for its part, proclaimed the proposed rule was promoting "religious freedom," saying in a statement that "the federal government should not be in the business of forcing child welfare providers to choose between helping children and their faith."

As the New York Times pointed out, LGBTQ couples with children are far likely than different-sex couples to be raising adopted children. This move in support of so-called "religious freedom," then, will merely negatively impact the more than 400,000 children currently in the foster care system by denying them loving homes with LGBTQ individuals and couples.

Read more about this rule here. We'll be sure to keep readers up to speed as this issue develops.

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