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The American Bar Association Passes Resolution in Support of LGBTQ Parents

The resolution will allow the American Bar Association to further its advocacy in support of LGBTQ parents

According to an article in Pride Source, the American Bar Association recently just passed a resolution in support of LGBTQ parents. The move came in response to the continuing trend of "religious freedom" bills in the states across the country, which make it legal for state-licensed child welfare agencies to discriminate against prospective LGBTQ parents.

The resolution recognizes that, despite the Supreme Court's ruling in 2015 legalizing same-sex marriage, LGBTQ people still face discriminatory practices and policies. As the article notes, so-called "religious exemption" bills have been passed in North Dakota, Virginia, Michigan, Mississippi, South Dakota, Alabama, Texas, Oklahoma, Kansas and South Carolina.

The resolution states that "any discriminatory law which restricts an LGBT individual's right to parent not only disregards these precedents, but also contradicts longstanding research. Decades of medical, psychological, sociological, and developmental research overwhelmingly conclude that sexual orientation has no bearing on an individual's ability to be a fit parent. This resolution therefore reaffirms the equal parenting rights of LGBT individuals."

By passing the resolution, the ABA is able to position itself to further advocacy in support of LGBTQ parents in front of policymakers, courts, and other organizations. "The policy would also allow the ABA to directly advocate on behalf of LGBT families and make clear its stance that laws which permit discrimination against LGBT individuals are unconstitutional."

Read the full article here.

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Governor Cuomo Proposes Ending Ban on Surrogacy in New York

New York is currently just one out of four states to completely ban the practice of compensated surrogacy

New York's Governor, Andrew Cuomo, recently proposed a law that would permit compensated surrogacy for the first time in New York state. As the New York Post reports, a ban on the practice has been in place since 1992.

"New York's antiquated laws frankly are discriminatory against all couples struggling with fertility, same sex or otherwise," the Governor told The Post in a statement. "This measure rights this wrong and creates a new and long-overdue path for them to start families and also provide important legal protections for the parents-to-be and the women who decide to become surrogates."

This move is the latest in a slew of progressive policies backed by Governor Cuomo since Democrats in the state took control of the Legislature after the 2018 elections.

The law would bring New York in line with most states in the country. Currently, the state is one of only four (including Arizona, Michigan and Nebraska) that ban all compensated surrogacy contracts outright.Andrew Cuomo

New York State Senator Brad Hoylman, who is himself a gay dad through surrogacy, has introduced several bills over the years to legalize the practice.

"For the first time," the Senator said, "I'm seeing movement."

Read the whole article here.

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A Dad Reflects on How Far Fatherhood Has Come for Gay Men

"I grew up closeted and conflicted, scared to be gay because of humiliation, fear of AIDS and because it was viewed as an affliction," said gay dad Frank Bua in a moving Instagram post recently. "Most importantly I was devastated that I could never have kids."

On the day his twins' reached a birthday milestone, dad Frank Bua took a moment to reflect on Instagram how far his life has come.

"My kids turn ten years old today. Double digits. I cannot begin to comprehend this milestone, for so many reasons. It has all gone by so fast, and I never thought any of it would be possible.

I grew up closeted and conflicted, scared to be gay because of humiliation, fear of AIDS and because it was viewed as an affliction. Most importantly I was devastated that I could never have kids.

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Right Wing Pundit Tucker Carlson Allegedly Threatens Gay Dad at Country Club

"Tucker threatened me with physical violence and told me to 'Go back to where you came from," the gay dad said in a statement.

According to cell phone footage included in a story in the Washington Post earlier this month, Juan Manuel Granados, who happens to be a gay dad, was threatened by Fox News pundit Tucker Carlson at a country club last month.

Carlson can be heard yelling "You better get the f--- out of here!" repeatedly on the video dated October 13th of this year. A man with Carlson escalated the encounter by grabbing Granados by his collar. According to The Post, Carlson is not only denying the episode took place, he even admitted that his threw a glass of wine in Granados's face just before the video began. But Carlson is denying that any assault took place, maintaining that Granados provoked the scuffle by insulting Carlson's daughter.

"It took enormous self-control not to beat the man with a chair, which is what I wanted to do," Carlson said in a statement, who maintained Granados referred to his daughter as a "whore."

Granados, an LGBTQ advocate, is no stranger to the spotlight. According to The Post, Granados sued a Virginia-basedsports club back in 2012 when the company refused to give him, his partner and their son a family membership. His efforts resulted in the company ultimately changing their discriminatory policy.

Granados is being represented by Michael Avenatti, the same lawyer working with Stormy Daniels, the woman who was allegedly paid hush money to cover up a relationship with President Trump. Avenatti released statements from two eyewitnesses to the altercation, both of who said Carlson's versions of events were incorrect.

"Tucker threatened me with physical violence and told me to 'Go back to where you came from,' before another patron started filming," Granados said in his statement, according to The Post. Granados is reportedly considering pursuing criminal charges against Tucker for the threats.

Read the full story on the Washington Post.

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Breaking with Older Generations,  Most LGBTQ Millenials Say They Want Kids

According to new research by the Family Equality Council, the number of LGBTQ parents is expected to rise dramatically in the coming years

According to the LGBTQ Family Building Survey, recently released by the Family Equality Council, the majority of young LGBTQ say they are interested in becoming parent. This marks a dramatic shift when compared with the attitudes of older generations.

Among the survey's findings:

  • 63% of LGBTQ Millennials (aged 18-35) are considering expanding their families, either becoming parents for the first time, or by having more children
  • 48% of LGBTQ Millennials are actively planning to grow their families, compared to 55% of non-LGBTQ Millennials, a gap that has narrowed significantly in comparison to older generations
  • 63% of LGBTQ people planning families expect to use assisted reproductive technology, foster care, or adoption to become parents, a significant shift away from older generations of LGBTQ parents for whom the majority of children were conceived through intercourse.

Despite the expected increase in LGBTQ parents, most providers, they note, "do not typically receive training about the unique needs of the LGBTQ community; forms and computer systems are not developed with LGBTQ families in mind; insurance policies are rarely created to meet the needs of LGBTQ family building; and discrimination against LGBTQ prospective parents by agencies and providers remains widespread."

The Family Equality Council goes on to recommend that family building providers "from reproductive endocrinologists and obstetricians to neonatal social workers, family law practitioners, and child welfare workers" begin preparing now to welcome future LGBTQ parents.

Read the full report here.

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Gay Dads More 'Equitable' in Parenting Roles Than Straight Dads, Says New Study

Unmoored by gender roles, gay dads take equal parts in being "playmates, caregivers, protectors, role models, morality guides,

A new study conducted by Éric Feugé from the Université du Québec à Montréal observed 46 families, made up of 92 gay dads and their 46 children over a period of seven years.

The study, which Feugé says is the first of its kind, analyzed the roles gay dads take in raising their kids and found the way they parent is 'very equitable'.

'We learned that gay fathers' sharing of tasks is very equitable,' the researcher told the Montreal Gazette, who added there was a "high degree of engagement" by both gay dads in all types of parental roles. "What's really interesting is that they don't conform to roles of conventional fathers. They were able to redefine and propose new models of cultural notions of paternity and masculinity."

Unmoored by gender roles, gay dads take equal parts in being "playmates, caregivers, protectors, role models, morality guides,' the author said.

Read the full review of the research here.

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Don't F*ck With This F*g

After a homophobic encounter on the subway, BJ questions what the right response is, in an era of increasing vocal rightwing activists

On February 1, 2019, Frank and I went out on a date night, something we haven't done in a while. Our son was sleeping over at his grandparents for the night and we made plans with our friends to meet them for dinner downtown. We decided to save some money and take the subway into town instead of taking a taxi.

We boarded the subway and sat down opposite a couple, a man and woman. I noticed they looked at us as we boarded the train and began whispering to each other. Frank and I were talking to each other when I heard the man uttering under his breath, "F*$%ing faggots."

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14 Gay Dad Families Show Their Love This Valentine's Day

These pics of gay dads smooching will warm the hearts of even the biggest V-Day skeptics

You might quietly (or loudly) oppose the commercialism and celebration of Valentine's Day, but let's just take a moment and rejoice in these beautiful signs of affection, shared between 14 awesome two-dad families. Cynicism gone? Good.

Happy Valentine's Day, dads! We hope you have a lovely day with your kids, your significant other, and / or friends. Because who doesn't love love!?!

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