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A Happy Gay Uncles Day to Us All

Last year, on August 14, the Internet lit up with the hashtag #GayUnclesDay, accompanied by countless adorable pictures of gay men beaming for the camera alongside their nieces and nephews. This year we're hoping to make Gay Uncles Day even bigger and better. So get in on the fun by telling the best gay uncle you know to send us their pics posing with their nieces and nephews to dads@gayswithkids.com for our latest photo essay.


As one would expect with any LGBTQ-themed holiday, last year others used the hashtag as an excuse to throw some social media sass:

"Not one tweet from my nephews or nieces on #GayUnclesDay," one Twitter user bemoaned of the non-existent holiday. "Cut them out of my will. The cash is going to a home for retired circus hamsters."

The social media sensation was all in good fun, of course, and I'm supportive of any holiday that leads Olympic bobsledder Simon Dunn to post this picture on his Instagram, but it's worth noting that not every gay uncle felt celebrated that day:

"If only I was allowed to have a relationship with my either of my sister's kids," said Tristan Michel Sauvageau, a gay man with a large list of friends on Facebook. "I bet it's nice being a gay uncle. I guess I'll never know."

For many gay men, National Gay Uncles Day was just another silly social media antic. But for others like Tristan, the hashtag contained a message that was at best aspirational and at worst a reminder of how far we have yet to go.

"I am not allowed in [my sister's] home," Tristan said when I contacted him via Facebook to ask him about the recent hashtag trend. "And have only met two of the three children. So whenever I see any holidays pertaining to 'family' I am filled with resentment, regret, anxiety, depression, and longing."



Looked at from this lens, it wasn't really the celebrities who joined in with a tweet or two or the funny "guncle" memes that gave #GayUnclesDay any sense of meaning. It was the straight people who chose to participate:

"Did not know #GayUnclesDay was a thing," said one user via Twitter. "It should be. My children have the best uncles."

"Happy #GayUnclesDay to my brother and his fiancé," said another on Facebook. "Connor is one lucky kid because of you two!"

For straight people, the simple act of posting the #GayUnclesDay hashtag was a sign of solidarity. Not only did it signal their willingness to celebrate the LGBTQ people in their families, but also — crucially — their openness to allowing them to carry on a meaningful relationship with their children.

That might not be so remarkable in today's world, when entire towns come together to respond to anti-LGBTQ bigotry with acts of solidarity. But it wasn't so long ago when gay men were equated with pedophilia in the minds of many of our straight family members, an association the religious right has exploited for decades to prevent LGBTQ people from becoming parents in our own right.

Visibility has gradually helped to change this and many other harmful perceptions of the LGBTQ community, and with any luck, social media campaigns like National Gay Uncles Day will help continue that trend so that some day all gay uncles can join in the fun.

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Gay Dad Penguins Strike Again! This Time in Berlin Zoo

The latest male penguins to care for an egg together are Skipper and Ping in the Berlin Zoo.

First, there was Roy and Silo — the two male penguins in the Central Park Zoo that served as inspiration for the famous children's book And Tango Makes Three. Then Magin Sphen got together in Sydney, where aquarium keepers gave the cocks (Calm down, that's what a male penguin is called!) a foster egg to care for.

And now, please welcome Skipper and Ping in Berlin to the latest list of gay dad penguins! As soon as the two emperor penguins arrived at the city's zoo, they set about trying to start a family, said Berlin Zoo spokesman Maximilian Jaege to DPA news.

"They kept trying to hatch fish and stones," Jaeger said.

So the zookeepers loaned the penguins an egg from a female penguin, who is apparently uninterested in hatching eggs on her own, according to the BBC.

Unsurprisingly, the gay penguins are killing it as parents. "The two male penguins are acting like exemplary parents, taking turns to warm the egg," Jaeger said,

Read the whole article on DPA here.

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Top Moments From Famous Gay Dads in 2018!

From Tom Daley and Dustin Lance Black becoming first time dads, to a gay dad contestant on the Great British Bakeoff, here were some of the top moments from famous gay dads in 2018!

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This Gay Dad Takes 'Twinning' to a Whole New Level

With his husband away on work, Danny Maffia was put on twin duty and filmed the experience for our viewing pleasure.

Danny Maffia and his husband Justin DeMartin became dads to twins after a three failed adoptions and two scams (read their story here). And not only did they get their family's happy ending, they are also winning at this whole twin thing!

Recently, while Justin was away for various work conferences, Danny was left holding the fort. For some fun, he decided to film his nightly routine with the twins. Remaining cool, calm and collected, in the video Danny appears to stay one step ahead of his twins at all times. Bravo, dad!

Danny was quick to follow up in his Instagram post that this was a very tame night in comparison to what it can usually be. Tame or not, Danny shows us how it's done. Our hats are off to you!

Gay Dad Photo Essays

Pics of the Moment Before and After Gay Men Become Dads

Dig through your phones — what was the last pic taken of you BEFORE you became a dad?

We all have THAT photo: the one taken moments after we become fathers for the first time. For some of us, we're doing "skin to skin" in a delivery room. For others, we're standing proudly alongside our newly adopted child and judge in a courtroom. However or wherever it happens, though, we make sure to snap a picture of it.

But what about that last photo BEFORE you first became a dad? What does that image look like, we wondered? Well, we asked our Instagram community to dig through through phones and find out. Some of us are enjoying a last carefree meal or glass of wine, others of us are captured nervously contemplating our futures. Whatever it is, we've decided these BEFORE pictures are just as meaningful.

Enjoy some of our favorites! Want to play along? Dig through your phones and send us your pics to dads@gayswithkids.com!

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Gay Dad in Sundance's 'Brittany Runs a Marathon' is Relatable AF

Sundance hit "Brittany Runs a Marathon" stars a gay dad trying to get in shape.

Who would make for the best marathon training partner for an overweight, overly boozed 27-year-old woman? A gay dad, of course!

The pairing, for any gay man who has been subjected to impossible beauty standards (not unlike... literally all women?) makes a bit too much sense after watching the new Sundance film, "Brittany Runs a Marathon," starring SNL writer Jillian Bell (as the 27-year-old) and Micah Stock as the (somewhat *ahem* older) gay dad.

Based on a true story, the film follows Brittany, an overweight and over-boozed 20-something, trying to clean up her act by training for the New York City marathon — while doing so, she meets Seth (the gay dad), and the two begin to train together, along with Brittany's neighbor Catherine. Each has their own motivation for running: getting one's live together, recovering from a messy divorce, or an attempt to impress one's athletic son. (Which is the gay dad? Guess you'll have to watch to find out!)

We won't give too much more away, apart from saying that the trio — based off of actual people and events — really works. It's the feel good film you're waiting to see.

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'Life Is Amazing': Congrats to Gay Dads Whose Families Recently Grew!

Help us congratulate gay dads on their recent births and adoptions last month!

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