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5 Questions Gay Men Should Ask A Surrogacy Agency

Choosing a surrogacy agency to work with is not an easy decision; it’s one that will impact your life for years to come. Prior to signing on the dotted line, you should conduct thorough research to make sure your needs can and will be met by the agency.

Here are five basic questions every gay man or couple should ask before enlisting with a surrogacy agency:

  • Is the surrogacy agency LGBTQ competent? Surrogacy is an increasingly popular path to fatherhood among gay men, and dozens of agencies now offer their services to the LGBTQ community. Some, however, have more experience working with gay men than others. It’s important to ask your agency about this experience before you sign any contract. How many of their previous clients have been gay men? Are they willing to let you speak to some of their previous gay dad clients for reference?
  • What is the screening process like for gestational carriers? Most surrogacy agencies will screen gestational carriers based on a number of set standards set by the American Society for Reproductive Medicine. You should make sure that, at a minimum, your agency is meeting those standards. As a gay man or couple, however you should also inquire into how the agency manages discussions around sexual orientation with their gestational carriers.
  • What services does the surrogacy agency provide? Not all agencies provide the same set of services. At a minimum, all surrogacy agencies will help match you with a gestational carrier for your journey. But you may require or want additional services, such as having an in-house lawyer and psychologist to conduct screenings.
  • How much will a surrogacy journey cost me and what is included in the fee? A surrogacy journey is not cheapBut a reputable surrogacy agency should be able to break down all the moving parts so you have an understanding of where your money is going, and what factors might impact the overall cost, such as the state you live in and whether or not your gestational carrier has health insurance.
  • How long has the agency been in business? In addition to the information you can find online, you should also ask your agency professionals to share some of its history with you. How many years has the company been in business? How large is the staff? What is the agency’s success rate?
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