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91 Messages to Trump: #RememberOurFamilies

#RememberOurFamilies


As a community of gay parents, we have many concerns and fears at the beginning of the Trump presidency. Some of us have raced to secure legal protections for our families before the new administration even begins; others wonder if their plans to foster or adopt will be blocked by what is clearly shaping up to be a very anti-gay and mean-spirited cabinet.

But for our children, for our families, for ourselves, we want to be hopeful. We want to believe that people in power will use that power for good. That they will make decisions that benefit all families, including LGBT families.

And please remember that throughout this time, Gays With Kids will continue to tell your stories and share invaluable information to help gay men become dads, as well as help gay dads navigate fatherhood.     

Meanwhile, perhaps what the new administration needs is a reminder. A reminder to #RememberOurFamilies when considering legislation that affects our children, our families, our lives, our dreams. Below, following this introduction, are but a few reminders from across our great nation. 

Add your own #LGBT family to this campaign by uploading your favorite family photo on Facebook, Instagram or Twitter with the #RememberOurFamilies hashtag. Also, please share this post far and wide and ask your friends to do the same. The greater our reach, the more likely we’ll be to reach the attention of our new President.

#HopeAndPride

the Guberman family

the King family

the Rosenberg-Van Gameren family

the Price Presslaff family

the Maynard Rudolph family

the Hawley-Molloy family

the Ryker family

the Blacker Goldstone family

the Daniels family

the Oddo family

the Israel-Sanchez family

the Bangs family

Take a quick break to read The Incredibly Loving Instagram Post From the Son of Gay Dads, written in response to our #RememberOurFamilies campaign. Then continue on to see the many other #LGBT families helping us send a strong message of inclusion to the new administration.

the Giansanti Stokes family

the Hill-Kalasky family

the Moya Vasquez family

the Alexander family

the O'Hair family

the Costa Novak family

the Santos Lake family

the Santiardo family

the von Tscharner Weyel family

the Gerard Camps family

the Cupp family

the Jalove Shea family

the LaDuke Matteau family

the Munster Spicer family

the Freed McGovern family

the Letschert Price family

the Gonzalez-Baltazar family

the Zielinski family

the Harlan-Vale family

the Yorgey-Girdy family

the McMillen-Oakley family

the Underly family

the Thompson-Lewis family

the Porcaro-Sullivan family

the Clarke family

the Carey Wood family

the Hunt Kendal family

the Reinot family

the Lee family

the Rogers family

the Berger-Jacobson family

the Strmiska-Nemerov family

the Kinyon-Vandersnick family

the Dodge-McLaughlin family

the Covey family

the Smith family

the Moore family

the Gregory-Veteto Family

the Santiago-Baird family

the Lepow-Beauregard family

the Swaggerty-Morgan family

the Rackley-Dunlap family

the Guanciale family

the Stigliano-Waite family

the Romesburg Mould family

the Marshek Gertner family

the Gomez-Woosley family

the Kelly Marcotte family

the Stevens-Yu family

the Arnone Family

the Longman-Keene Family

the Mills family

the Camp family

the Gibson-Roark family

the Taylor family

the Alexander-Ward family

the Longman-Keene family

the Chien-Flores family

the Tipton-Johnson family

the Parker family

the Noble family

the Ortiz family

the Portnoy family

the Minor Fernandez family

the Bautista-Turpin family

the Rummell-West family

the Kiker-McDonald family

the Anderson-Priuska family

the Lerma family

the Albert family

the Calloway family

the Collins family

the Corrao-Shaw family

the Hicks family

the Hall family

the Niles family

the Della Volpe Family

the Carter family

the Jackson family

Want to see even more wonderful gay dad family photos? Check out our Pumpkin Patch Families and 30 of Our Favorite Gay Dad Family Halloween Costumes

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Your Marriage Should Be Gayer, Says the New York Times

In an op-ed for the New York Times, Stephanie Coontz, author of "Marriage: a History," lists the many insights LGBTQ marriages can offer straight ones.

According to a fascinating op-ed in the New York Times this week by Stephanie Coontz, author of "Marriage: a History," turns out the people convinced marriage equality — legal across the United States for five years now — would usher in the complete breakdown of civil society should be more worried about the health of their own marriages.

In the article, Coontz details the results of research that followed 756 "midlife" straight marriages, and 378 gay marriages, and found same-sex couples reporting the lowest levels of physiological distress — with male gay couples reporting the lowest. The reason for this, the author said, is pretty simple — misogyny. The idea that men and women should strive for parity in a relationship is still a fairly new idea, Coontz said, and traditional gender roles are still pervasive. Gay couples, meanwhile, are free from such presumptions, which often results in happier, healthier relationships.

The most interesting findings in the research relate to parenting. While gender norms tend to be even more emphasized among straight people once they have children, with the bulk of the childrearing falling to mothers, same-sex couples — once again freed from the stereotypes of the male/female divide — parent more equitably. As the author notes, "A 2015 survey found that almost half of dual-earner, same-sex couples shared laundry duties, compared with just under a third of different-sex couples. And a whopping 74 percent of same-sex couples shared routine child care, compared with only 38 percent of straight couples."

When it comes to time spent with children, men in straight marriages spent the least amount of time and the lowest proportion of "nonwork" time, with their children — while men in same-sex marriages spent just as much time with their children as women in a straight relationship. "The result?" Coontz writes, "Children living with same-sex parents experienced, on average, three and a half hours of parenting time per day, compared with two and a half for children living with a heterosexual couple."

Straight fathers devote the least amount of time — about 55 minutes a day — on their children, which includes things like physical needs, reading, playing, and homework. Gay mothers spent an additional 18 minutes each and straight mothers an additional 23 minutes. Gay fathers spent the most time with their children, the study found, an average of an additional 28 minutes a day.

Taken together, straight couples spend an average of 2 hours and 14 minutes on their children. Lesbian moms spend an additional 13 minutes, while gay men spend 33 more minutes than straight couples.

One factor, the author notes, that can help explain this difference is this: gay parents rarely end up with an unintended or unwanted child, whereas a full 45% percent of pregnancies in straight relationships in 2011 (the last year data is available) were unintended, and 18% were unwanted.

But right. Gay people shouldn't be parents.

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Uber Driver Accuses Gay Dads of Child Trafficking

An Uber driver in San Diego reportedly accused two gay dads of child trafficking because their child "didn't have a mother."

[An update on this story as of February 17, 2020: Uber Support has still yet to respond to James Moed and his multiple requests from further comment. The driver who falsely accused the gay dads of kidnaping their own child, in fact, continues to "drive around with a "Pro Diamond" status with a 4.93 rating," James said in a recent Tweet.]

On January 29 of this year, James Moed took an Uber with his husband, and their newborn son, to the Marriott Marina hotel in the San Diego area. As their newborn son cried in the backseat of the car, the family's driver offered this piece of helpful advice:

The baby just needs his mother.

Any queer dad has been through this scenario a million times — the dreaded "Where's the Mommy?" question. But even when the dads explained that their son had two fathers, not a mother, the driver "didn't back down," Moed said via Twitter.

Little did the couple realize just how perplexed the driver actually was. At 1:30am in the morning, the couple was greeted by a loud knock on their hotel door. Officers from the Port of San Diego Harbor Police Department were on the other side, demanding to see the couple's identification — and their son's.


"It turns out the Uber driver who had taken us to the hotel had called the cops – accusing us of child trafficking? Endangerment?" Moed wrote on Twitter. Though the situation was quickly resolved, the couple was nonetheless — and understandably — "freaked out."

"What if we hadn't had his passport?" Moed wrote. "Where can my queer family travel safely?"

The couple took their complaints to Uber. In response — they were refunded $10. "Keep your $10," Moed wrote. "We want proof you keep your LGBTQ riders safe."

After Pink News requested further comment from Uber, the company gave the following canned response:

"As soon as we learned of this incident we launched an investigation. Our Community Guidelines make clear that we do not tolerate discrimination."

The dads, however, are keeping up the fights, demanding evidence of some sort of LGBTQ sensitivity training their drivers must undergo. We'll keep you posted as we learn more.

Politics

New Report Finds Paid Family Leave Rising Among Top Employers

PL+US report has found paid family and medical leave policies more popular than ever among nation's top employers

PL+US, an organization that advocates for paid family leave policies for all families, released a report that showed paid family and medical leave policies gaining steam among the nation's top employers. In a first, the non-profit expanded its research this year to examine the largest employment sectors in the country to help show what policies look like for workers in different sectors.

Among the report's main findings:

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Surrogacy for Gay Men

Dads Talk About Surrogacy Process in New Video for Northwest Surrogacy Center

The Northwest Surrogacy Center interviewed some of their gay dad clients for a video to celebrate their 25th anniversary of creating families through surrogacy!

Last year, Northwest Surrogacy Center celebrated 25 years of helping parents realize their dreams. And they celebrated in style by inviting the families they've worked with over the past two and a half decades to join them!

At the party, they took the opportunity to film queer dads and dads-to-be, asking them a couple of questions: how did it feel holding your baby for the first time, and tell us about your relationship with your surrogate.

Watch the video below and get ready for the water works!

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Surrogacy for Gay Men

Campaign to Legalize Surrogacy in New York Heats Up with Competing Bills

Two competing bills — one backed by Governor Andrew Cuomo and another by Senator Liz Krueger with stricter provisions — are aiming to legalize surrogacy in New York.

Governor Andrew Cuomo of New York is once again attempting to legalize commercial surrogacy in the state, which is still just one of three states in the country to forbid the practice.

"This antiquated law is repugnant to our values and we must repeal it once and for all and enact the nation's strongest protections for surrogates and parents choosing to take part in the surrogacy process," Governor Cuomo said in a statement in announcing a broader effort called Love Makes a Family. "This year we must pass gestational surrogacy and expedite the second parent adoption process to complete marriage and family equality."

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Gay Dad Photo Essays

How Single Dads Are Celebrating Valentine's Day This Year

Valentine's Day is not just for lovers! We caught up with 8 single gay dads to see how they plan to celebrate Valentine's Day with this year.

Valentine's Day is not just for lovers; it's also a day to celebrate our loved ones. And that's exactly what these single dads are doing.

Within our community, GWK has a large group of admirable, active, and awesome (!) single dads and we want to honor them! On Valentine's Day, they and their kids celebrate their family unit in the sweetest possible ways. We asked the dads to share these moments with us, and, where possible, one of the most heartwarming things they've experienced with their kids on Valentine's Day to date.

Hear their stories below.

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Gay Dad Photo Essays

11 Gay Couples Share Secrets to Their Long-Term Relationships This Valentine's Day

This Valentine's Day, we spoke with 11 gay dad couples who've been together for almost a decade or longer to learn what's made their relationships last

You're the peanut butter to my jelly, the gin to my tonic, the strawberries to my cream, the Mr. to my Mr.!

Happy Valentine's Day folks! We're excited to celebrate this day of lurrrrvvve by featuring a few dads in our community who've been together for almost a decade or more! And they're ready to share their secrets to a successful relationship and parenting partnership.

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