My family attended our first drag brunch recently. It was a holiday affair, advertised as a family-friendly event where Santa Claus would make a very jolly and gay appearance. To be honest, it felt a little strange bringing my two and four-year old children into an environment that's usually reserved for cruising and after-midnight merriment. And yes, there was some side-eye from the elder gays, rallying for their noon meet-up after what was undoubtedly an evening of college boy cruising and dollar give-a-ways at the go-go bar.

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In a personal essay for Metro Magazine, writer Sophie Mei Lan says her father never had a moment in which he "came out" to her. Growing up, she says it was just an accepted fact of life.

She writes: "People are constantly asking how my dad came out to me as gay I want to answer: Well he held a huge party for the whole neighbourhood and he had this cake made which he sliced open to reveal rainbow layers whilst Diana Ross belted out 'I'm coming out, I want the world to know, got to let it show…'

But instead, there was no party or public declaration, she says. She was only three years old when her father and mother split, and her father began dating another man. But she never questioned the sudden shift in her father's affections.

"The beauty of young children is that they are born with open minds. Kids may ask questions, but they just accept what's put in front of them. It's society that feeds prejudice and intolerance. So we just adapted to living with two different families, in two houses. It was the ferrying around that caused problems, not my dad's sexuality."

Read Sophie's entire piece here.

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Eight years ago, Jay Faigenbaum messaged Adam Jacobs on the dating site Match.com. Adam had let his membership lapse, however, so wasn't able to read the email. “I'd kind of given up on dating at that point," Adam admitted. Still, he was intrigued by Jay's mystery message.

“I called customer service and said, 'Dr. Phil promised me six months free if I didn't find love on your site,'" Adam laughed, referencing a commercial from the time featuring the self-help guru. Sure enough, the company offered Adam six months for free. But as it would turn out, one extra day was all he needed.

“Jay's email was the last I ever read," he said.

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In March this year, Antwon and Nate shared their exciting news with the Gays With Kids community: they were going to become foster dads! In May they caught us up to speed on their licensing, how they were getting prepared and what were their next steps. Now, several months later, they're still waiting ...In this video, Antwon and Nate give us an update.

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"I really want be a father, build a family but I don't know how start," a reader asks our expert, Brian Esser. "In my case I will be a single dad because I haven't yet found a good man to share my life with. But what concerns me is my status here in the US. I'm Brazilian, I don't have "papers" even though I have a good job. Because of this I don't know if I can adopt a kid here. So my question is: can I adopt a kid here or is not allowed for me?"

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We are excited to announce that Erik and Adam McEwen, of the popular YouTube channel "McHusbands," will be contributing monthly blog posts to Gays With Kids! In this first contribution, the couple talks about the experience of making a video for every. single. day of their twins' first month. Check out some of our favorite videos at the end of the post!

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Not even a heartbreaking miscarriage could stop Chris and Christopher from becoming parents. Now they're dads to triplets! Meet Conor, Logan and Parker, born July 3 this year, the adorable sons of two proud dads. We caught up with the Chris and Christopher to find out about their journey to fatherhood and what it's like having three under 6 months.

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What can a horse teach a single gay man looking for love and hoping to start a family one day? A lot more than you'd think, it turns out. As a mental health professional, I recently had the opportunity to complete an 8-week equine assisted therapy program Heart of Horsemanship (HOH) for veterans with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). While I am fortunate that I don't personally suffer from PTSD, the experience deeply touched me in ways I can barely put into words. And while it might not be obvious what a experiential horse therapy program has to do with Gays With Kids, I'd encourage you to read on. It's more relevant than you think.

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Though paid surrogacy is legal in many parts of the United States, the practice remains illegal in New York. However, that may soon change. A state advisory panel recommended this month that New York reverse its ban on women serving as paid childbirth surrogates, the Daily News reports. New York has banned the practice since 1992, and is only one of 6 states that currently ban the practice.

The panel's recommendation specifically mentioned gestational surrogacy as a key way LGBTQ couples are able to start their families. The report says: "Equity must be a driving principle if all families are to enjoy the opportunity to welcome children into their family. Gestational surrogacy affords lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) families an important opportunity to have children."

"I think it is a major step forward for our efforts to legalize commercial surrogacy agreements," said State Senator Brad, who used paid surrogates, out of state, in order to start his family with his husband David Sigal. Senator Hoylman has sponsored legislation along with Assemblywoman Amy Paulin to legalize the practice without the current requirement that the surrogate maintain a genetic relationship to the child they carry. The measure has been introduced every session since 2012 but has never advanced.

Holyman and Paulin hope the panel's recommendation will help give momentum to their bill, though Governor Cuomo has yet to weigh in on the matter. Gays With Kids will be sure to keep our readers up to date as this story evolves.


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